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*illiebean
writes:Okay.. so about three months ago me and my baby's father broke up. We broke up because he didn't want to spend enough alone time with me and my son, so I often nagged about it.. After we broke up I made all of the mistakes you could possibly make, called and txt him all the time, showed up at his work, hung aroundhis friends, etc. I talked to him and he told me, "I'm never changing for anyone ever again. I'm going back to my old self." And he did. He started smoking meth, he moved out of his parents nice house and to his friends house, he parties all the time.. He hasn't really wanted to see our son, who's now only 7 months, since we broke up! And now I find out he's seeing my 14 yr old little sister! He's 20 I'm 19. I really hate them! But I find myself missing him all the time.. I don't understand how either one of them could do this to me and my son! And now he hates me and I didn't do anything to him! ow I don't know what to do.. any advice?
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 What he's doing with your sister is illegal and so is the meth, that isn't enough to cool your jets? It's really not in your best interest to have him arrested because guys in prison don't have to pay child support. Your best bet is to get a court order for child support and also make sure you have full custody and because he's on drugs, supervised visitation unless he agrees to give up his parental rights- I'd push for that. He doesn't need to be around your child really at all but if he is, you need to be there. Please don't let this guy in your home if he's high or you are just being negligent with your baby, okay?
You are going to have to get over this missing him nonsense (the guy's on meth and raping a minor), and be a strong mother and put your child first. Too bad for your sister but your first priority is being a mother. Take care.
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reader, tux + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 Well, i'm sorry, but you are going to have to go on without him.. He does not sound like the greatest of guys. A) he's smoking meth which is highly illegal and is dating your 14 year old sister who is probably smoking meth with him. Not to mention that there is probably sex involved which could land him in jail and your sister pregnant. You are between a rock and hard place. Unfortunately, i can only see this ending with him in prison and you raising your child by yourself or with your family.
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