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writes:Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I lived in Florida. He lived in New jersey. We saw eachother every 2 or 3 months. I finally moved up to New Jersey to live with him around November .. Everything has been great. We argue. But it hasnt been this bad.My problems right now is that is summer, and his friends are home from collage. He spends so much time out with them until around 2 in the morning. It bothers me. I'm alone for countless hours. I dont have any friends or family here in nj. So im pretty much alone all the time.He thinks i shouldnt be able to get upset over that. And its wrong for me to make him feel bad, but the thing is i really dont try to guilt him at all. If he wants to go out with his friends some days thats fine. But atleast tell me when yours going to be home so i dont worry. And this coming home at 2 in the morning is not right to me..I feel like he'll be like " we're gonna be out for a couple hours and when we get home we can cuddle and spend some time together " .. it doesnt happen. He isnt keeping his promises.I'm thinking about going back to florida to give him space.. but i dont know if thats a good idea. I dont want to break up with him. i love him. i just dont know how to deal with this. Someone please help me ? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 June 2012):
 Your boyfriend sounds like he's being very inconsiderate. Yes everyone should be able to go out with their friends when they're in a relationship, but even in normal circumstances it's not considerate to be disappearing out drinking all night with your guy friends.
Though I do have to say, you've been there since November, so by now you shouldn't still be relying on him to be your only friend.
If you feel like he isn't listening to you or thinking about you, it might be a good idea to go back to Florida to think things over while you can be apart.
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