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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now. Last month was my birthday and he organised a party for me which was really thoughtful of him but my problem is that he gets to be this angel and the out of the blue he becomes something else. Whenever we get into an argument he always finds a way to point things back to me. He says the most horrible things to me and then expects me to smile, he gets mad at me for the most stupid things, he cuts me off when we have to talk about serious issues. I've tried to please him in ways of trying to change who I am but I couldn't do it because I'm not prepared to do so but then again I want him to be happy and comfortable around me. I need to know if I'm the problem in this relationship. Pleaaaaaaaaase help!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you a lot for your advice , I truly appreciate it.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Hi,
First off...if someone loves you, they accept you for who you are...regardless of if you get on their nerves or not. That's part of the give and take of love. That being said, loving someone does not mean that you need to put up with mental, emotional and verbal abuse. That isn't love.
From your letter, you've outlined his problems so from that I only see him being unfair and disrespectful. He just doesn't sound very grown up.
If you know that you've done all you can and you are doing your best in the relationship....then move on.
Why would you want someone like that to stick around in your life and make you miserable?
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