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writes: after a family party i found myself really drunk and alone with my older and
good looking cousin.
i have always had a crush on him and looked up to him. we get along great
considerring the age difference. we ended going back to his place and had
sex. we both knew it was wrong but it felt great. the next morning things
were a little awkward between us like any other one night stand only this
was more complicated. we agreed never to mention it again and for a few
months we never seen eachother. after not seeing eachother for a while we
ended up meeting for a drink. at first nothing happened but after a few more
meetings he kissed me and said he really liked me. we had sex again and this
time it didn't feel awkwards afterwards. this was a about 4 months ago and
we have been meeting up atleast twice a week at his place for sex since. we
talked and we want to be together but we know the family would dissaprove.
he has mentioned going away together but i don't know what to do. what if it
doesn't work out. i would lose everyone i love. i really want to be with him
but don't want my family to find out about us.
what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): It's quite simple - except for when it's not. I'm in love with my first cousin (male) and I have done nothing about it. Yes, I'm pretty sure it's love, but I cannot do that to my family, and I confess that I am too afraid of what would happen if I said anything. I don't know if he knows about my feelings or reciprocates, but I think it's best that I don't know.
Sometimes you just have to suck things up - life isn't fair :/
And the funny thing about love - real love - is how little sex has to do with it (not saying I don't get very frustrated sometimes).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): This situation, believe it or not, is not all that uncommon. Some of the most famous people were in cousin marriages. You can marry a cousin and not be in an incestual relationship, since incest is defined as a sexual relationship with a close relation, like a brother or sister. First cousins might fall into that definition, so I personally would shy away from those relationships (better safe than sorry!). Other that that, I don't see the problem. I married a third cousin!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): If you really love each other your love is all that matters some will approve and others will not and it will cause a problem but if it is not worth that then the love was not strong enough. Think look into your own self and you will need to trust each other in full then only then will you know that what you have is the real deal and if so nothing is more important than that.
Good luck
Joey
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): I'm in the same boat. I'm 24 and my cousin is 18 and we both have intense feelings for each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): I have always been sexual atracted to my cousin for a while
I would like some advice on how to get her to want sex with me please let me know thanks
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reader, blank  +, writes (21 April 2008):
so i am deeply in love with my cuzin but theres a problem at first i thought it was gona end after a year or so i was 15.so a yr past he went to visit his mexico for 2 months he cheated on me.i forgave him....he cried for me.he said he wanted to be with me.so on december he left i was gona see him in june but i ended up going to his place in christmas and his parents saw a connection so when i came back i thought to myself and from other ppl.
"if he did it once hes gona do it again espcially since ur not gona see him for the next 5 months."i cheated on him.he forgave me...IS THIS RIGHT?CAN WE CONTINUE?
if feel like we could.100%.i love him i believe he is behaving and being faithful to me.no doubt about that.
please help?.
we've been dating for 1yr and 6months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Hi!
I feel you completely. I believe that you should do whatever your heart tells you to do so. Even though you say that your family will be angry, they should respect your decision because it is what will make you happy and parents should do whatever it takes to make their children happy. i must also say that it is your life and your future, so you should be the one deciding. I must say that i am in love with my cousin. He isnt my first cousin, hes liek my third or fourth and its not like we grew up together as babies. since then, we cant keep calling eachother. in my situation, his family is dying for us to be together. they are really trying to put us together. we will take it day by day and see how God wants us to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): I have just been reading some of the about sleeping with your cousin! I met my cousin for the first time in August 2005 we married in Feb 2006 an now have 1 son an a daughter on the way I dont regret it was so ever we are happy & love each other. My family have just excepted it an treat us like any other couple within the family! Families can be more understanding than you expect. x
You cant help who you fall in love with & I dont think I wil ever feel this love with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hi There, i am so confused! I recently went to visit my first cousin, haven't seen him in 11 years. As soon as i saw him, i just knew..
I feel so comfortable around him. We cuddled all night the first 2 nights i was there, and the last night we had sex. We didnt mention our feelings for each other, and now im thinking that for him it was just sex. I have a boyfriend and a 3 year old daughter at home. Things havent been right with my relationship for some time. Now I know I have to end things as obviously I dont love him as i cheated on him without a second thought. My cousin lives 400 miles from me, now i feel my heart is breaking, i just want to be with him
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reader, the one +, writes (2 April 2008):
Well, I read your encounter with your cousin and I had to respond. I have been off and on with my cousin over the years and in the last 5years he moved to my State and we have gotten closer with time. We have been living together for the past 2years and I don't think I would ever find anyone closer than I am with him. He is my bestfriend and I don't see him as my cousin never haved. Our family has adjusted well and we plan not to have any children. We love each other very much and we are very happy together. It is a rare situation but, if both of you can get past all the issues it does work. We were friends first before lovers. He is my soul mate.....FOREVER....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Well, I read your encounter with your cousin and I had to respond. I have been off and on with my cousin over the years and in the last 5years he moved to my State and we have gotten closer with time. We have been living together for the past 2years and I don't think I would ever find anyone closer than I am with him. He is my bestfriend and I don't see him as my cousin never haved. Our family has adjusted well and we plan not to have any children. We love each other very much and we are very happy together. It is a rare situation but, if both of you can get past all the issues it does work. We were friends first before lovers. He is my soul mate.....FOREVER....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): im having the same agony my self im 18 my cousin is 17 wev always bin close we started kissing when we wear 14 then we started masterbating and giving one and outher oral sex we first had sex when we wear 16 now we are deepley in love and want to get maried but we are to scared of losing are famalies its killing me but we are talking about runing away together but now i dont care what thay say i love her and she loves me and thats all that maters.best of luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Yeah I know where you're coming from. I hadn't seen my cousin since he was a baby and when my nan died I saw him at the funeral for the first time. It was so bizzar, I felt such a connection, after talking to him at the wake I found out he was so similar to me.He lives in another state so I only see him once or twice a year, I saw him 12 month later and he came onto me but I resisted coz it was at the xmas party and other relatives were in the next room, but I told him I was interested, and so happy he felt the same way and want to be with him and kissed him later on. It feels so weird, he's the first and only guy I've ever felt this way about... but at the same time I don't want to lose the family coz I know they will hate me as I am the older one. It's ashame, I've only felt this connection with in 2 other relationships (with girls) and I don't wanna lose it, every other relationship I have I feel nothing about them, no matter how long I date them. :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Sine you love him, stay with him. And day by day tell your family about your lover.
and the strong relationship. by days your family will notice that, and agree.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): I agree with the women here who say that as long as you both feel like you love each other and want to have sex with each other, then go for it and pursue a relationship with each other.If any other women here have had sexual experiences or desires involving a male cousin or other male relative, please share your experiences here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008):
Follow your hearts and be happy, and remember it is not incest, it is perfectly legal and you are doing nothing wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): I am currently in the same situation as well. I love my cousin so much, but we never had sex. I also have a problem because I know that our family will be against us and we're Christians so we really have a strong relationship with the Lord, but we just love each other. We couldn't help it like in times that we just wanna be alone inside his room, but we don't do anything bad; we just talk and flirt most of the time. But his parents are having problems with me staying inside his room. We don't really care because we still do it. I think stopping us to be together kinda makes us to be together more often and most of the time we hide our dates: watching movies, eating out, and such and such... We still hang out inside his room; Haha it always turns me on when he asks me what color of panties I'm wearing, he always tickles me, hugs me, and he keeps on unhooking my bra. But we never sleep together. So we always have the thirst for each other.
I am also very honest to him. I tell him everything/all of my secrets. And I am not scared that he might tell on me, because I really trust him with all my heart. Oh my god! I love him like crazy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): In 2006, i went to my uncle's funeral in south africa and there was this handsome guy who was smiling and flirting with me since i got there... he asked me my name and all that staff and after sometime my uncle (his dad)was so pleased that we still good cousins even though we last saw each other when i was only 6. I didnt remember him as a cousin, and i couldnt imagine him as one because there was something in us more than just that. I then learned that we had same surnames and we are first cousins. it's been two years now and just the sound of his voice completes my every day...
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reader, PaulNY +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Well Actually the bible says nothing about being with a cousin as bad. Its bad when you're with a brother or sister. Anyways I am in severe agony actually, I have a cousin I been in love with all my life. I'm 22 shes 20 we're both scorpios and we were younger we were very close shes always came to me for everything. We always kissed when we were young secretly and i had to move away out of state, for years we didn't speak. Then when i reached about 17 i saw her again and we were instantly attracted to each other again. Not long after that we ended up making out a few times. Then we ended up not speaking to each other again for about a year. I've seen her with different boyfriends over the years and shes turned into a very hateful person in general. We are still close but the fact that shes been with people i've respected it and not been trying to make a pass at her. I know its there still and we've talked about it but shes afraid of what people would think, where as i don't. I'm in so much pain but i tell her i'll wait till the end for her because thats how deep my love is for her. Nowadays i do everything in my power for her and she truly appreciates it and the feeling is there because we still flirt and touch sometimes. I just feel like this will end up being my demise, my destruction, my un-doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): What!? Dont do that s***. Good looking or beer goggles, ALL FAMILY IS OFF LIMITS. It's not like I don't understand. My cousins are gorgeous, but if they come within 5 feet of me for more than a hug a fight is bound to ensue. If you do this, YES you will loose your family. It's a family breaker. There are just to many people in the world for you to end up with your own cousin. This is a no. Do not continue this relationship because it will, no matter how good it FEELS, destroy you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): well, I would say go for it!!! if there is love, there is nothing wrong...I've been in love with my cousin pretty much all my life...I am 21, he is 22, and although he is my 3rd cousin, we were raised as first...we used to play "house", I was the mommy he was the daddy and we were really happy...until I guess he hit puberty and I was too much of a little kid for him, our relationship started wearing off and I stop seeing him....years passed and I moved to the states...totally "forgot" about him and starting dating...After 7 years I went back to my country and for some reason I was anxious to see him...to my surprise he was excited to see me as well and we spend all night dancing and talking....it was just amazing...when we saw each other again it was just weird because we tried to get closer to each other but we didn't know how...He started to kiss me all over my face (except my lips)...and didn't stop hugging me all night...he even got mad when I started flirting with other guy close to our table....maybe it was just mere attraction, but there was something, the kind of feeling that you don't have to say out loud because it is obvious....I came back to the states and now I can't stop thinking about him...
in your case however, you know he love you and you love him...so don't waste no time and go for it...ur family will get upset first ...but eventually the will come around...!!good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Hi I just wanted to reply to your question,as I am going through the same thing as you are.Me and my cousin grew up in different countries.We met up over the internet and i went to stay with him for a while.Its a long story so i will just say that we ended up getting together.We wanted to be with each other but found it hard to tell our famlies that we loved each other.In the end we found somewhere to live and we just moved in. We didn't tell any one where we were or that we were going.When they found out both my parents disowned me.Then my cousin decided that although he wanted to be with me the pressure of the family got to much for him and he moved back to his country.I felt very alone as I had given up every one I loved to be with him.I was very lucky as when my parents found out they started talking to me again.Then me and my cousin got back together which my parents were not happy about as they saw it as wrong.Although they are not happy about what i am doing they are still there for me and they are coming round to the idea although i know they will never be truly happy with it.My advice to you is don't just run off with him be honest with your family as lying to them will only make things worse for both of you.if you love him and your sure you want to be with him then do what you have to because your living your life and no one can tell you how you should.Things will be hard for you for a while but if you are both strong you can get through it together.I hope that this has helped you and what ever you do I wish you luck.Just another bit of advice,there are people out there that will try and drag you down over your choices but in the end people get used to the idea and they forget that you were even cousins in the first place.You both have to be strong because it is not easy.But I would still have done it because we are soul mates and make each other very happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): I'm in love with my cousin too and he is 22 and I am 18. he is hansom and sweet and we hung out alot when we were younger then one day he decided to kiss me under a misletoe and i kissed him back. After that, we talked bout how much we've liked each other and we decided to stay together. Nothing is awkward between us right now either; we've had sex and he wants to get married. I've told him to wait untill I'm out of college. I don't belive marrying your cousin is at all bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Sleeping with your cousin is not incest. For those who think that, they need to look around, and learn the fact before they just talk. Most people who say this, have never felt an attraction towards a cousin, so its like asking someone if they would sleep with their brother or sister. Which IS incest. To answer your question though, I would just have to question whether or not you really WANT a relationship with your cousin. If you do, there is no other way but to come clean, and let everyone know. Love shouldn't be a secret, so go for it. Whats the worst that could happen. It might be hard, but love can overcome anything. You should noooooot deny your feelings. Thats why we have feelings to begin with. It is ok, and LEGAL to act on them..for the most part. Use good judgement, and you shall be fine. I wish you all the best. Enjoy this relationship with your cousin...you will have it for the rest of your life...you mine as well enjoy it to the fullest!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): i know what your are going through, i have met my cousin and after a couple times seeing her i realized i am extremely attracted to her she is so fun to be with and i want to see her more and more, i have not told her about my attraction to her but want to and i am scared, i think you and your cousin should sit down somewhere private and discuss your feelings and the pros and cons with each other then maybe come to a decision, if you still feel in love then go get married, who cares what the restrictions are
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): This happened some years ago. My first cousin (female) was 25 and divorced at the time. I was 30 (male) and also divorced. We had always been close since kids but never did anything sexual. Let's just say we decided to get a bit closer later in life. We took a cruise together. As far as anyone aboard ship knew, we were man and wife. We engaged in a lot of sexual activitiy during that cruise. It was something we had always wanted and we did it. As far as we were both concerned, it was consentual sex between two adults and no one's business but our own. There was never any guilt felt by either of us. It was just one of life's nice little experiences. However, we obviously kept it to oursleves. If that had ever gotten out, it could have been an ugly scene within the family. We are now both married again and we keep in touch. Since both of us are now married, doing that again is out of the question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): If you love him and he loves you, the both of you should stand up for who you are. If you stick to what you feel and believe your family will come around and eventually support you. I was in the same situation. I made the decision that I loved her and I was not going to be miserable loosing her. So I stood up for what I wanted. My family has come around and is very supportive of us. There minds changed when they saw how happy and perfect we are together.
Good luck,
in the end do what makes YOU happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): My stories starts here, i had gone for 2 1/2 months to eritrea (east africa) i met a distant relative of mine at first we started hanging out cause i was raised in the states cause i didnt know the city that well. When i fist met him i didnt even know we were related. Initially i was only around him cause i didnt really know that many people and my mom would only let me go out, if i was with him. From the moment i met him i was attracted to him and i did have lustful thought but i didnt love him.After spending pretty much everyday with him things started to change.I realized i was devoloping feelings for him and i told him one night when him and his friends and i went out to the clubs i confessed i did it then purposely cause i knew that if had confessed when i was drunk if he rejected me i couldve just made the booze the excuse.I was suprised to find out though we shared the same feelings weve had sex but its not about that hes really amazing i love him because of who he is. I dont agree with cousins being together i wish we werent related.But at the same time hes amazing hes the kind of person i can see myself marrying we want the same things and hes so wonerful i barely know him and i have a pattern of falling in lust and confusing it for love within a short period of time. But hes so different from all the other guys ive dated and for some reason i really trust him hes just an incredible man hes just beautiful inside and out. He's my 5th cousin i didnt even know who he was.We met and we just clicked but i never wouldve thought that it would be like this. I just got back yesterday from my vacation and i miss him so much. But to all of you i will say this if your inlove with your first cousin you gotta know thats wrong your first cousin thats like your brother or sister. Especially if were raised around eachother.ITs a tuff situation i really wanna see where it goes but at the same time i know this isnt right and i dont want to hurt our families.But at the same i just love him.what should i do
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reader, int5 +, writes (9 November 2007):
Theres nothing wrong with "Keepin' it in the family" im totally for that. If you truly feel he is the one or you love him truly then go for it,yes it may be difficult with family but if you live your life based on what others would say or do then youll never have a life,best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): hey there's nothing wrong with loving your cousin. i say go for it because it's the best love in the world. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): hello me and my cousin have kissed and help body parts snce we were in 5th grade we snuck it of corse but now i feel like having sex with her but stay with family hes your cousic but it depends how close you r 2 him
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): It's crazy what life throws us. I am also in love w/ my cousin. I was willing to loose my family for him. I got pregnant and he cheated on me and got her pregnant too. It really hurts, but I got my lil' baby to live for. He says he don't want to be with me cuz "we can't" cuz we're 1st cuz=n's. But he wasn't saying that when he was sleeping w/ me. So sometimes it ain't worth it. No matter how much love you got for him. Now my baby has to grow up w/ out a father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): i dearly love my 2nd cousin i met her for the first time an she is 16 soon so then we can be together i dont care what happens just as long as i can be with her i love my family and she loves her but i love her i cant help it anyone who sees it as wrong can't have been in love because it seems impossible to ignore it i honestly love her
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): I know what you are going thru, though in the end my cousin and I did not pursue a relationship together. He and I both came from military families, so we rarely saw each other growing up, maybe once every couple of years. We had seen each other when he was 6 and I was 9 (and I actually had a crush on his brother!) and then not again for 8 years. I was in college then and going thru a very rough teenager drama time period with boys. My grandfather passed away and we were all going to his funeral. We lived states away and I was so looking forward to getting away and leaving all the drama behind for awhile (though I really wish it could have been under different circumstances, my grandfather was an AMAZING person). I went to the airport with some other cousins to pick up the last group of them coming in from another state states away and was nervous about seeing them because it had been so long and we hadnt' seen each other since we had all been kids and all of us cousins had never all been together at the same time, and we were all just hoping to get along. I literally hugged my aunt looked at the other two boys and smiled and then stopped breathing as I looked at the youngest boy, three years my junior and truly one of the most stunning specimens of the male species. I had never experienced "love at first sight" until that moment. And come to find out he went thru the exact same experience upon seeing me. We were almost nervous and giggly talking to each other at first, and I know we were young and foolish and it was awesome. We spent every moment together for the next three days. The first night all of the cousins stayed up all night talking, but he and I were in a different room. We did nothing, no kissing, nothing on that trip, but that started it all. We kept a long distance relationship for a year until we got to see each other again. We fooled around that time, and the last day we had together, we did have intercourse, and it was great (though the sex I have with my husband now is 10,000 times better!!). However, after that it got harder to do the long distance thing and it all kind of fell apart. The next year we saw each other again and all the feelings were there, and we made out a few times, but knew it wasn't gonna go anywhere. We've both had plenty of boyfriends and girlfriends, and even been jealous, but we made our choice and it was right for us. At least for me. The second to last time I saw him was 5 years ago and I was married and I know it hurt him, but we got thru it, and are really great friends now. My hubby knows everything, but he's the only one I ever told. I think he was suprised, but never judged me, and finally got to meet the cousin in question about a year and a half ago. It wasn't even weird. I know our family would have never accepted it, and his mom definitely knew that he was in love with me, but never realized how much I returned those feelings. In our young dumb minds we made all sorts of plans to move away from our families and sever all ties if that's what it was gonna take to be together, but like I said, within two years it was over. It was a young love, but it really was love all the same. There is still a place that he resides in my heart and I'll continue to love and care for him more than I ever really should!! My advice to you is that if you truly think that he could be your one, just take it slow. If ya'll are meant to be together than it won't matter how long it takes for you to tell your family and figure everything out.As for those of you who have successful relationships with your cousins, more power to you. It's great to know that we are not alone.And for those of you who just want to judge, wait until something that "shouldn't" happen happens to you. For me it was definitely finding love in the least expected of places, which is a beautiful thing. I only hope you get to experience something so wonderful in your lifetime!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): hey, am really confused to but i guess by reading all your stories i need to share mine too. i've been in love with my cousin for 4 years now, she was 16 and i was 17 when we met. We just clicked,we haven't had sex yet but we flirt a lot and sometimes it's erotic. i know she loves me she's told me how much and how she can't bear loosing me. Am just wondering if this is wrong coz i know my feelings for her can't be claimed by anybody else
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): I had Anal and Oral Intercourse with my cousin at age 14 and now shes pregnant it's hard I still love her and were happy though our parents are'nt it's not what they want it's what you want and if they dont like it they dont love you they have to accept it even though it might be disgusting
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): I had Anal and Oral Intercourse with my cousin at age 14 and now shes pregnant it's hard I still love her and were happy though our parents aren't it's not what they want it's what you want and if they dont like it they don't love you they have to accept it even though it might be disgusting
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): It's seem my situation is the worst because I do love my counsin 10 years younger than me. I've tried to stop that feeling but I can't. I was trapped in the past and thought about the times we spent together. Nobody knows about our relationship except my two closed friends. They told me to stop it. I can't stop it and I can't move on either. So painful! And I am in an asian culture. We have a strong idea about this stuff.
Anyway I feel better to find the site. At least I am not a sick person. I always blame myself.
Hope some day I will get through it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): I just get by and read all your stories. I also have this weird feeling about my cousin.He is the son of my real aunt. I have bf and he has gf already. But we both are not very happy with our partners. When i am near him i feel very comfortable. Talking to him makes me happy. He also treats me special. My bf loves me very much but we argue a lot and i am so tired of talking to him. I know I should not like my cousin. I dont want to do anything further because there is no future for us but i can't get over this feeling. Do I have to feel pain to know that i am alive???
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): GO FOR IT... me and my cousin have been goin out for a while and its unbelievable.. he was 19 and i was 17 at the tyme.. i visited my aunt and uncle in the next state for the 1st tyme in ages and stayed for 2wks we clicked pretty much ryte away and by the second week we were shaggin and all... we both didnt agree with incest stuff but there was such a connection... now being like almost 9 mnths later.. we do plan on spendin the rest of our lives 2gether family approval or not, and now weve told our gorgeous nanna everythin includin dirty details and his family found text messages from me on his comp so yea... my advise would be go with it if you both are serious bout eachother and dont care wat others think bcoz if it makes u both happy, wat else matters?? Just keep it low for a while to sort shit out wiv eachother and find out watz goin on first!
we plan on havin a kid in about 5yrz bcoz there is just a slim percentage of it bein retarded like 1 percent more than anyone else. weve checked it out .. and if it duz turn out that we wud be havn a retard... we will adopt. luckily for us our family is pretty laid back and his mum really likes me. At the moment were livin in my mums house wiv her fiance and they have almost caught us a few tymes, and come home wen we were in the shower together, but we bullcrapped our way through and so all they got is suspicious minds.
laydahz!!
* nothin wrong with keepin it in the family* ;P
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): Im my opinion you are doing nothing wrong, however small minded people do exist (even within a family unit) You do find love in the strangest places, and just because he is your cousin does not mean that you cannot love him, marry him or have his babies.
I am in a relationship with my 3rd cousin and I have never been happier, the amount of Chemistry we have is just through the roof, we have the same dreams and ambitions, at the end of the day we are only human, FACE YOUR FEARS AND LIVE YOUR DREAMS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): I hooked up with my cousin when I was 18. I always had a crush on her. We kept a long distance relationship up for awhile, but soon I got freaked and just stopped answering her calls. I went on, dated, fell in love with someone else, even got engaged but it broke off. 13 years later, I met up with her again. I knew I'd be happy to see her, but I didn't imagine that such a fire would be lit...
Anyway, we don't really choose who we love. Like gay people, do you think if they could choose, they would choose societal scorn and ostracism? I didn't choose to fall in love with her, if I had a choice, it wouldn't be something so taboo. But if I really loved her, love conquers all and I would proceed at all costs.
And that's what I'm going to do. In terms of my family, eventually, when they see how much we love each other and how I will treat her, they will accept it. But I understand that once I make this announcement, the bridge behind me is burned down.
I would advise anyone in this situation to really analyze how strong your committment is, if your commitment wavers, break it off and do not contact, like I did 13 years ago. Evidently, the love is true, and if that is what you decide, go for it. It's about your happiness and that of your loved one, not about what other people think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): i went on a trip to newyork to see my girlfriend and i fell in love with my third cousin.i stayed with her for three days and we had amazing sex.it was love at first sight.we are planning to get married |
