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At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime?

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Question - (20 February 2008) 22 Answers - (Newest, 13 June 2011)
A male Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have a question about a the sexual prime for woman. At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime? During this period of her life does she tend to want and or have sex more? During this time is sex more enjoyable for her? During this time is the sex more passionate?

Thanks for answering my questions.

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Jake

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011):

43 for me! OMG! I was off the charts! I think it all depends on the situation. I have never had better sex than now!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011):

My prime hit in my mid thirties in terms of my bodies ability for long haul sexuality I think. Then for a long period I was not sexual, then in my fourties and now especially at 50 sex is for certain different... yet better. Sure there a few aches and pains from certain sexual gymnastic positions (LOL) and a some dryness here and there. But now as an older woman the mind is more open and there are less inhibitions. I am with a man my age, who like women his age and we share great core chemistry so the sex is great once the setting is fine and the lubes are nearby in case needed. The inner scape of the mind has enlarged making even a kiss more heady and simple deep hugging fantastic. Oran sex is more appreciated and enjoyed with less inhibitions.

I am giving and getting more head than I ever did in my life and I am more comfortable with it at this age. The high peaks of passion are cherished. The sighs, sounds and moans more meaningful. You seen and experienced alot of lifes pains and traumas. The private pleasure means more. Especially when you are with someone who really appreciates your particular sexual expression to them and desire for them. Orgasms are more intense and emotional.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011):

I truly believe I am at it I am 36 and dating a 40year who complains I want it way tooo much and that Im not normal.I do want it all the time i think about it alot and everytime im with my partner i want to have sex before anything else. Oh and end the day with sex too is that too much to ask??

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010):

Jariosa - I am 27 and love experiencing women, not girls. Just reading your answer turned me on. if you really are horny you should live your life and find a mature young man and give him the ride of his life - teach him what you know. When men are there 40s they have usually f*cked their bodies up by eating like sh*t and now they suck at f*cking. I am being completely serious, by the way...my friend just had a series of dates with a 42 year old and has nothing but amazing things to say. just get out there and safely f*ck like crazy. if you hold it back its your own causation when you end up turning your sexual repression into some new mental defect, malfunction, or dis-ease.

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A female reader, Jariosa United States +, writes (21 July 2010):

I am almost 48 and I am so horny all the time. At times I can't even function or barely even walk. At times I am moved to tears over it. The think is, I'm very sexy and nice looking and look to be around 29-36 so I am told, but I can't just be out there f*cking around. I don't know what to do about this. I wonder if other women around my age experience this--not being able to function because of the same thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010):

I am an almost 31 year old woman who has been married going on 10 years. I have had the same partner since age 17. Although he was not my only partner. I find that my sex drive while high in my teenage years is unmatched to the strong desire to have sex at my current age and it's significantly higher than it was in my 20's for certain. My urges are so strong that we have begun "swinging". I think about sex nearly all day long...unless I am having my monthly visitor. For my husbands part, he has pushed himself to keep up with me. While he's not capable of having multiple quickies like when he himself was younger, he has matured to the point that he can become erect at least once a day and I can have as many orgasms as I can get before he has his. He's an incredible sport.

I do have a busy and active life with 3 young children at home and sometimes I dread that I have such a strong sexual appetite to feed when I am bound by so many family obligations. I too wonder if I am amping up or will it settle down? Looking at the vivacious women in their 30',40's, and 50's within the swinger community I am just not sure...

I do however totally disagree with the poster who says you are at your "beauty peak" in your teens and 20's. I am far more sophisticated and flat out gorgeous these days. As I know a lot of other women who look and feel the same way.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009):

I'm a 55 year old widow. Faithful to my deceased the entire time we were together, as in first screwed until he unfortunately died over 3 years ago. We were together for over 20 years.I believe a woman's sexual prime is tied directly to her relationship with her man. Being true and faithful isn't very hard, when you are both on the same page.Life events can cause havoc, and usually involves loss of sexual intimacy or total lack of desire for one partner or the other.After so many years, grandkids and every day being just another day, sex wanes. Or it did for us,and at different ages and times.I had totally lost desire for a long period of time because of life altering events. After menopause, no kids around, my desire for any kind of sex, playful, casual, daring,passionate was at peak again. That was in my late 40's early 50's. My Husband was very sick-the likes we had not clue, until too late. During this time, I was at another peak in my strong desire for sexual contact, but he wasn't able to perform, but put it off as no desire. Heavy drinking by one partner and the other partner being totally sober is a drag. But, he passed away and I lost my mind. Swore to myself I would never have another man or any sexual partner! again.I felt we were lucky enough to have found true love & lasting love, so why even bother? After I finally accepted that he was physically gone forever, I have found again found a very strong sexual desire and need to held and kissed by a man that won't hurt or disappoint me. Wow, wonders never cease. 55 years old and I feel as if I'm in my late 20's and early 30's again wanting playful,daring, casual and passionate love making. Even dreaming of a sexual marathon with a new, and younger man. I thought sex was dead, and probably still would be, if it weren't for a relationship that developed with the younger man as a platonic, friendly, helping each other out with duties surrounding home homeownership, and hours of laughing and talking. I'm almost a goon trying to imagine how it would feel making love with a different man. Gooned, afraid, embarrassed, fear of losing the wonderful friendship we already have is holding me back. I will not every marry again, that is certain. But, as I said every sexual desire or need has re-surfaced to an extreme. Thinking I might actually have another shot at sex and love, because sex itself means nothing to me, it's the man, chemistry or whatever you want to call it. A woman's sexual desire can come and go, regardless of her age & possibly her experience.I know from other friends, including my 73 year old Mother who after 27 years found new love & sex. As I'm learning I still have that tiger inside craving the warmth, caring, playful, passionate sexual marathon I dream of.

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A female reader, dwelly United Kingdom +, writes (1 July 2009):

im nearly 40.im married to mark whos 11 years younger than me.very happy.trouble is my sex drive is has been 0 for 2months,now god i could just grab anyone off the street at mo in the day as im so horney.just need it all the time,myself and husband are very confused,sex 4 times in evening .strange

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A female reader, MRS420 United States +, writes (25 June 2009):

Alas however, new studies in sexuality have debunked the sexual prime myth. Originally, female prime was considered to be the early 30s and male was 18. We now know that it is late 20's for both genders. And it was never considered 40 for women ever at all. To this day I don't know where women over 40 got that prime was 40 when the original published theory clearly said early 30's. It did NOT say 40+. Not even remotely. And the word "prime" was never in the original theory. The word used was "peak" which means beginning of the downturn on the graph.

I believe you are already in your sexual prime but because you are not married do not fully express it so your prime is delayed or what I call stretched. Usually ON AVERAGE,women are sexually active between 15-49yrs.In their late twenties are having more sex than they were having in their teens, need not say even better. It peaks in their 30s and is usually affected by work, stress, family and personal problems the bounces back in their 40s till the sexual clock stops ticking. At what age it stops varies from person to person, nation to nation, culture to culture e.t.c

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I have a question about a the sexual prime for woman. At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime? During this period of her life does she tend to want and or have sex more? During this time is sex more enjoyable for her? During this time is the sex more passionate?

I can say for me it began around 41 years. I am now 43. I do tend to want more sex and it is more enjoyable - a lot more enjoyable ;) I do not believe that it is more passionate - for me. The passion does not really matter now. Just having a good time and pleasing my partner and my partner pleasing me. I think it is more enjoyable because I am much more comfortable and more confident with myself than ever before. Don't get me wrong, I did think that all these years I was having great sex, sometimes. More often that not, I could not have an orgasm. I would think about it too hard and try to hurry - not to inconvenience my partner. Now I just relax and let it go, let it happen. The first time this happened, I about exploded.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009):

Well I'm 32 and my fiance is 42. Presently I am the testoterone in the relationship. Yeah! He is the one with all the headaches and can't keep up with me!. For the last 2 months I just can't get enough. Meanwhile, he's in his "momen-o-pause" mode. I don't know what to do. Although I want to be considerate to his headaches, i don't want to miss out of the most pleasurable years of my life. What's a girl got to do!

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A female reader, jmi808 United States +, writes (2 March 2009):

I got married at 18 and had kids right away, but sex to me at that time wasn't very enjoyable. Now I'm in my late 30's and single again, I love sex...its alot more passionate and alot more exciting now more than ever.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008):

Well there are different types of prime. For example a young female might not be in her sexual prime but she is in her beauty prime and athletic prime (athletic prime is essential to good sex as anybody who as dated a young female athlete knows). A 32 year old woman might be in her sexual prime but is not in her beauty prime and by forty is not in her athletic prime either. A young male is in his athletic prime and beauty prime but not in his money and power prime and therefore doesnt create many big gap marriages. An older male might not be in his sexual prime or athletic prime but is in his money and power prime and uses those to create the bulk of society's biggest gap marriages.

Alas however, new studies in sexuality have debunked the sexual prime myth. Originally, female prime was considered to be the early 30s and male was 18. We now know that it is late 20's for both genders. And it was never considered 40 for women ever at all. To this day I dont know where women over 40 got that prime was 40 when the original published theory clearly said early 30's. It did NOT say 40+. Not even remotely. And the word "prime" was never in the original theory. The word used was "peak" which means beginning of the downturn on the graph.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008):

my mans going to be 30 at the ende of this year. im 31. being together for almost 3 years, hes told me openly about how hes always had a high sex drive and alll. but, unfortunately, while im willing to fuck 15x nor more a day, obviously, he cant keep up , he says hes not 17-18 yrs old anymore. although

he initiates more often than myself. but many things come to play as well, like work, we have a 16 month old and one more on the way. i always get sad and tell him i wish id known him when he was in his prime. for the amount of times we would of had sex, he might as well have had sex with 5000 women.

he laughs. i laugh too. except i feel sad inside because his ex gfs sucked him dry. now we have eachothers leftovers.

so to speak. it sucks too because i might be in MY prime,

but children, being pregnant etc take its toll.

i was 96 pounds before getting pregnant im currently 101 pounds but i feel fat and sloppy. while he can lie to my face and say how sexy i look, i think of a 1000 ways to shove a gun in my mouth. because i dont feel sexy. i feel clumsy, and sex drive wanes at the ,moment. ahh, im just rambling now. off topic. sorry. point being, it sucks when two partners sex drives are not equal.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008):

I feel that my sexuality is more intense than when I was younger. I'm 30 now. I've been celibate for 9 years, so I feel I can rightly judge that my libido is increasing. Over the 9 years I've been more turned on by men being close to me as I age.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Starts mid-30's and the other answers are yes, Yes & YES!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008):

I am a 37 year old woman and have to say that i believe i am in my sexual prime and yes sex is so very passionate now.. so very true that we are much more confident now not only in what we want but in what we can give as well...

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A female reader, Minxy68 United Kingdom +, writes (3 March 2008):

Im a 39 year old woman and I have been told that a woman hits her prime at 30. From my experience sex does become more passionate, maybe because when a woman hits her 30's she is more confident and knows what and how she wants it. Yes I do think that in your prime you want more sex and it is definatly more enjoyable.

Hope that answers your question for you.

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (20 February 2008):

I believe you are already in your sexual prime but because you are not married do not fully express it so your prime is delayed or what i call stretched.Usually ON AVERAGE,women are sexually active between 15-49yrs.In their late twenties are having more sex than they were having in their teens,need not say even better.It peaks in their 30s and is usually affected by work,stress,family and personal problems the bounces back in their 40s till the sexaul clock stops ticking.At what age it stops varies from person to person,nation to nation,culture to culture e.t.c

Take care.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008):

From 35 to 40 when she shed all her sexual inhibitions and fear of getting pregnant.

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Haha! My aunt is 53 and jokes about wandering around the nursing home with a walker, searching for a tampon. :D Still ovulates.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (20 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntFrom 35 to 40 when she shed all her sexual inhibitions and fear of getting pregnant.

You can Google for that answer.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (20 February 2008):

DoubleM agony auntActually, everyone is different in this regard, depending on so many different things about their lives. But I have read that women actually begin to peak from about the age of 30 to 40 and beyond, while men are most virile beginning about 18 through the 30s. So in that sense, if true, men peak early and begin to decline about the time women reach their heights in sexuality.

In my opinion, it matters little, as I'm very hot since my 50s began, and I think young women in their late teens and early 20s are super sexual (I hear. Not sure. They ignore me now). Who cares anyway? If you meet the right member of the opposite sex at any time, just get it on if available !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008):

I'm (about) 18, and in my prime. Have been for two years. Still going strong. :D Just kidding. I'm not really sure if I am in my prime or not...gotta wait a few more years to get back to you on this one.

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