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writes:So I am 21 years old and in college. My parents expect me to have a partner and possibly get married after college (although, they do not want me to do online dating but they cannot stop me as a 21 year old girl). Friends of my family and some of my extended family always ask me why I do not have a boyfriend yet and I usually do not know how to respond. I do not have any guy friends because I never really made an effort to make a guy friend. I have never had a boyfriend before. I feel like guys do not hit on me at all because they never approach me or ask me out. I do not drink (I do not go to bars) nor do I really go to parties/nightclubs. Sometimes I try putting myself out there, with people my age, but I have never been close to scoring a date. People say love comes to you when you least expect it but I feel like I am nowhere close to love. Should I try online dating or should I continue to wait and find love offline?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 September 2016):
 To the person who asked:
I'm a strong believer in on-line matching/dating. I met my SO just about 5 years ago on a well-known such site. We communicated by email, then spoke by phone, then agreed to meet for a lunch (lunch is good because you (both) can excuse yourself and cut it short if the chemistry isn't there....)
My age is above retirement age (65+).
I'm old enough to remember newpaper "personals".... a means by which I have also met a woman for dating...
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 September 2016):
Always get to know people in person. You cannot hide your true self for long.
Dating is easy...Relationships are hard. Why? Because you are no longer dealing with your own personality anymore. Trying to make to different personalities work smoothly, that's the challenge.
Is it fun...Oh hell yes :) Is it worth it...Yes!!! just take your time.
Never stay with a man who makes you feel less about yourself...EVER!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2016): Hi to Everyone. Just wondering what Sage Old Guy thinks of on-line dating for himself. Would he have any guidelines for us to follow? He appears to be a switched on guy. I'd be interested in getting his take on the whole scene. Sage Old Guy, how old are you?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 September 2016):
 Don't feel pressured in to dating from your family, it is your life. You should not be rushing in to finding someone to settle down with, you are young so have fun, do what you enjoy doing and who know when the time is right you may meet the perfect man.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 September 2016):
"....and I usually do not know how to respond."
YOU DON'T HAVE TO RESPOND!!!!! It's NONE OF THEIR DAMN BUSINESS how your love-life is going!!!!
I suggest that you MAY try on-line dating... and, if it proves successful for you.... so much the better....
Live YOUR OWN life.... and let others live their's.....
Good luck...
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (8 September 2016):
 Take it slow. Don't let your hormones run away with you when you do get a date and start "falling in love" at the get go. You'll only get hurt and end up with the wrong people.
Focus on getting to know people. I'd venture a guess that most long-term couples were friends first or at least built up a strong friendship early on. Try making guy friends, so that you know what guys your age are like firsthand. Also consider speed dating, just for the fun of it.
Don't rush dating or love.
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