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Are we moving too slow?

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Question - (18 July 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 October 2009)
A female , anonymous writes:

I have a boyfriend who I have been going out with for about 3 and a half months. We are both unexperianced and I haven't even had my first kiss. I love him so much, but are we going to slow with the relationship? Please help me.

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A female reader, cassidycutthroat United States +, writes (2 October 2009):

don't feel like you're moving to slow. i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months... he's my fist boyfriend and i'm his first girlfriend... and we haven't kissed yet. we're very happy together nonetheless, so that proves that a relationship can last long and strong without kissing :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008):

Well i am n my first real relationship also and i think my boyfriend and i are taking it alittle slow also but its ok. my first kiss was n january about three weeks after we were dating its been 5 months today and that is just about as far as we've gotten. Im not really sure why but it seems no matter how big a guy's ego can easily be shattered. The truth of the matter might be that your boyfriend is shy or maybe he is afraid of getting hurt if he gets to many different reasons are possible, just be patient and let the chips fall where they may. He' l come around. Until then mayb guide him into a scenario thats perfect for a first kiss. A moonlit walk,a movie, or even gettin out of the car after a date. Outside in the pourin rain is my personal favorite:)

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A female reader, tyler's_cowgirl +, writes (19 July 2006):

tyler's_cowgirl agony auntPersonally i think it is amazing and romantic that you and your guy have been able to keep things going for 3.5 months without even kissing. It means you 2 have more in common that just sexual attraction. Things will happen in their own time, just relax and go with it... when it happens it will be that much more romantic because you waited instead of just rushing into it.

Best of Luck, tyler's_cowgirl

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006):

There is such a thing as going too slow so I think I know what you are driving at. I'm all for keeping a good, clear head and being cautious when going into new relationships but dear, a girl loves to be swept off their feet and romanced..especially in the beginning of a relationship. This is the most wonderful, happiest most glorious time of a new relationship. So when you say he hasn't kissed you even in 3.5 months, perhaps you both need to communciate. He may be shy about pushing too hard. If he's embarrassed and has a hard time showing affection, he may not be quite ready for a dating relationship. If you aren't happy with how things are's okay to talk nicely to him about it. Tell him relationships are based on feelings and emotions and you need to express yourself. Because all you have right now is simply a friendship which is a good base, but you two should be going beyond that if you are dating. Never be afraid to communicate to a beloved and ask for what you want. This is how people bond and connect.

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A female reader, Granny +, writes (18 July 2006):

Granny agony auntIt's your relationship, and take it at the pace that pleases both of you. No-one else matters. Three and a half months together shows you have things in common, can talk and enjoy being together. He may be holding back from kissing you out of shyness at his own inexperience, or out of respect for yours. If you want to be very brave, try giving him a kiss on his cheek to let him know you would like to be kissed.

I do not know how old you are, but I am definitely a lot older than you. I met my current boyfriend in February last year and we shared our first loving kiss in the following May. Being older and experienced in being hurt, we took it slowly and are still happily together. Being young and unexperienced, taking your love slowly may also be a wise thing.

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