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writes:I am 19. Seeing a now 35yr old man. We have been seeing each other for nearly two years. I secretly love him, and he has told me he loves me. But, he has gone away on bussiness and I miss him. We spoke to each other on Skype every morning and night but then, one night, it looked like he logged out as soon as i logged in. I got hurt and upset. The day before I called like three times to see if he got home ok and he never answered. I thought he was getting ready to leave me or something. So, I didn't call him or answer his calls until today. From his voice, he was feeling hurt. But we were both too proud to say so and I was cold anyway. He told me he missed me but wouldn't try to talk to me if I now hated him. I guess we just had a fight, and i don't know how to handle it. I don't know if sorry is enough. He is too far away to realize I mean it anyway. Why am I like this? I never wanted to hurt him or to get hurt so easily by something not his fault. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, soon567 +, writes (4 September 2011):
I think texting is so impersonal and misleading as in you case. I think the two of you are misreading one another. There is an age gap between my gf and I. She has a big problem like you do here. She talks for me and when i say talks for me, i mean she assumes things then try to force me t believe them...lol.Example, she'll say that im mad when im not, or tell me i hate her when she knows its not true.Give him a call and just talk to him. Drop who ignored who coz petty things leads no where but down. Relax and let him work, i can almost see my girl in you except we're closer in age gap then you two.Never hide anything, if other cannot accept it then its there problems not yours. They can see a therpist to get over your relationship if it comes to that. Hiding = wrong.
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reader, cheers  +, writes (31 August 2011):
 No point to keep quiet(too proud to say so).In the end you LOSE him forever. That's not what you want,right? come on
My dear,Pls make the first move!
pls give him a call/sms asap and BREAK THE ICE.Get it? don't be afraid. Be brave as you'd nothing to lose.I support you!
Surely he'll get the hint. Say sorry and You love him.where can we meet tonight? As soon as the ice is broken, it's the time back to normal happy relationships
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (28 August 2011):
 Call him and explain your childish mistake. If he was out on business than maybe he couldn't answer your calls until later. And the logging in thing sometimes registers logs outs from previous sessions to when you logged in. Like when you receive a text after your phone has been off or dead, the text says it came at the time you turned your phone on. It was obviously a mistake and he should be able to see that. If you truly mean you're sorry than it should be enough.
What do you mean you secretly love him? If he loves you, why not tell him you return the feeling?
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