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writes:Help! I can't stop thinking about this guy. We started seein each other beginning of january. The last time I saw him was 10 days ago. He lives about an hour away. And since then he only texts back after i do first. I've only talked to him on the phone once since and I called him then. Sometimes I think if he wasnt interested he wouldn't even bother texting back or answer the phone. But I would like to see him more often. Does this mean he's not that interested in me or should I give it more time? or does this sound normal. What should I do? Do you think he's just busy?
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reader, crazykit666  +, writes (27 February 2009):
I think it is a bit harsh to claim that this is a childish post/situation. Everyone has doubts and fears no matter how old they are! Everyone plays games and become infatuated no matter how old they are! Isn't love beautiful! :DAnyway, back to the post... I think that although it is possible that he doesn't like you, i doubt this very much. Some guys are really bad at texting and talking about how they are feeling etc- especially at the start of a relationship! Or maybe, as you suggest, he may have just be busy? As you say, I find it very unlikely that he would reciprocate in anyway if he didn't like you, especially when you live so far away. The way that I see it, you have three options-1. See how things pan out, continuing the way things are.2. Ask him straight out if he is actually interested (you have to be wary that he's not just after sex here as well)3. Try not messaging or texting him for a while and see if he gets back to you. I know it is difficult not to text/msg someone when you like them but you don't want to look desperate. If this is the case (you always want to message him), then I recommend writing down his number (accurately!!ha.) and hiding it somewhere safely in your house. Then delete his number from your phone and the temptation will be lessened :P This way you can wait til he phones you.How do you know this guy? Is he part of your day-to-day life? If he isn't then you don't have much to lose! You don't run the risk of bumping into him around the office etc! Let me know how you get on/ what you decide.Feel free to message me if you want to chat more,Crazykit x
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reader, k_c100 + ♥, writes (27 February 2009):
 Gosh I cant believe you are aged 36-40, the way you speak is more like a teenager! This all sounds fairly childish - when one person makes more effort than the other it is clear something is not quite right! If he was interested then yes he would text you first or call more often.
But if you are seeing each other then he must be at least slightly interested. So talk to him, ask him if he sees the relationship going anywhere. Tell him you want to see him more often and see what he says.
If he is still acting the same way after you talk to him then I guess you have to accept that he isnt interested.
I hope this helps!
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