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writes:What can be consider signs?.... Ok so I'm in the process of moving on from my last love, I'm seeing someone (not working) doing my own thing, etc... Anyways, I had this thing before during the time him and I were on/off relationship, it's gonna sound crazy but, ok so everytime I saw a car like his randomly it was because he was thinking of me, I guess I picked something that I can use as a sign that I should keep pursue him ha... Now that I see everything is lost, there's nothing left for me to do (he has a new love, and seems very committed and happy) I'm trying as hard as I ever tried before to let him go and move on... But gosh things that happen to me, like couple days ago I went to lunch w the guy I'm currently seeing, and behind me were 2 people eating and chatting, they were talking about a person with the same name as my ex, lol it was like they almost knew I didn't need to hear his name so they can say it loutter haha I'm crazy I know... Just things like that happen to me and it clearly look like signs to me, like I'm trying to move on, and the universe just makes it harder... I almost always run into something that calls his name out loud, and it's painful cuz now I don't only have his face in my mind, but I also have his new gf with him too... This been painful enough already, I wish there was all in my head but things like that really happen... Drives me crazy...
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (7 June 2011):
these are not "signs" - they would have happened regardless of your current state of mind, and they do happen all the time without you noticing just that right now you're sensitized to anything even remotely related to your ex which is why right now you are noticing anything that has even a remote connection with him. It's very natural, because we humans have a tendency to want to see patterns and to create patterns out of chaos as a way to make sense of our world. It's where superstitions come from.
Creating patterns out of random events is what our brains naturally do, and are good at. But whether those patterns are meaningful and predictive of concrete events is something else. Lots of people think they see meaningful patterns in the stock market, for example.
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reader, me81 +, writes (7 June 2011):
me81 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Haha you are totally right... I guess one day things that happen like that won't call my attention anymore as it does now... Thank you for the advice ;)
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 Actually these things ARE all in your head.
Try this, for one week think about chocolate icecream and red cars. Watch how many times they start to almost appear as if by magic. No, not magic, you've programed your mind to search them out. You're actually programmed in your own advertizing agency into your brain. That's it that all.
Not a sign from the gods, not a sign that he is your soul mate, not a sign that means get your grind on with him.
Nope.. he's moved on, you haven't. Sorry hate to break it to you, it's ruff, reality.
However, you do have your mind on your side. Start thinking about new men, hell go for the man of your dreams. Make up a name for him if you want, who knows, maybe you'll gravitate towards that reality.
Now go and be young and free.
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