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writes:Are these some signs my ex wants me back?I asked my boyfriend (or whatever) of 2 years to move out after he lived with me for 7 months. I felt he was doing a lot of things to push me away, I won't go into detail, but I also got pretty angry at him a lot of the time for it instead of just ignoring him most of the time to inspire him to stop acting so jerky, my mistake.He at first told me nothing was changing between us, he was just moving out, but on the day of he seemed to be really mad at me and said I wasn't his girlfriend and he moved in with a female roommate that he dated 12 years ago, she has a 13 yr old daughter that lives with them and she says she is just a roommate....and I was kind of mad about him not telling me ahead of time that he was moving in with her.....and we sort of ended up breaking up, without even really making it official, but I stopped calling him.It has been almost three weeks, and so far he has called me several times every day and for a few days I did not take any of his calls and he did not leave any voice mails. Just the other day I finally did talk to him for over 30 min, where previously it had been less than 10 mins.We also used to work together, actually took the job together, and I got layed off and he didn't. Yesterday he called about 6 times all day long finally leaving a message to call him back after 9PM after he got off work, which I did and he had company over and wouldn't talk much, but he asked angrily why didn't you answer my calls? I told him I had been working with my Mom all day and left the phone in my car.....This morning he called and was talking about how a woman at work whose boyfriend just moved out of her house asked him how I was and when he told her he moved out a couple of weeks ago she asked him out for drinks. He declined. Another woman who just recently moved out from her husband and is getting divorced rubbed his shoulders for him because he went to work ill, and previously before her seperation she was always particualarly snotty to him and even mean.He tells me another girl who is married gives him frontal hugs all of the time.My ex ? is a very tall handsome man, so he gets a lot of female attention, but do you think he is trying to make me jealous? Do you think he wants to get back together or is he just being mean? He says he is going to take ME out for dinner next week when he gets his large check to sort of thank me for all I did when he was living with me while he got his job going....and it will be his birthday, too.He hasn't apologized really for what led to our fight upon his leaving, but he has tried to tell me a story about it and explain it which to me is not the same thing.He has also asked to go to my gym with me tomorrow to work out and says he hasn't worked out much since he has moved out....and he has gotten a second job to fill in his financial gaps during the seasonal off time at his current job and tells me that they may even make him a supervisor there (so he is bragging).But I have noticed that a couple of new girl's phone numbers have popped up on his phone bill (we have a family plan) so he is at least flirting with other women and actually calling them and giving out his number I guess.....although his roommate has some friends he is meeting too, so not sure who these women are, if they are just chasing him or what.He of course would like to be friends, but I don't think I can be friends with him and hear about all these other women even though I probably will be dating myself.So, are these signs he wants to get back together? Or should I just forget it and let him go on with his bad self?
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reader, didda123  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 I am feeling that it may be the end of the relationship you say that he was doing things more or less to annoy you and so probably he got the desired result when you asked him to leave that is the cowards way out on his part!
He says he is going to take you out for a meal well i would clarify with him just exactly why he is going to do that, ask him if it is on a purely friendship basis from his point of view because if it is i would honestly just forget him and move on.
You can do without him rubbing your nose in his new social scene and he seems a little insensitive if that is what he is doing! I don't doubt he likes you but he can't expect you to just fall into being his best friend when you have had a relationship with him for several months and it would be very hurtful of him to try that.
I think he seems to have one big ego and personally i would just let him get on with things, you are bigger than that.
I know it is easier said than done moving on but just try to remember the way he has treat you, you told him to leave for a reason, there is better men out there who will treat you with respect and you will get the love you deserve but if you hang on to this relationship you are delaying your future happiness.
Good luck i hope you can be strong x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): You obviously were not happy with him since you told him to move out.
He is obviously playing a lot of "mind games" with you. Perhaps he trying to make you jealous to "punish" you for telling him to go. But so what? It sounds most peculiar that he moved in with a woman he dated twelve years ago rather than get a place with another man, or on his own.
Still and all, UNLESS you REALLY want him back - and it doesn't sound as if you do - I agree with Taste of India. He's just not worth bothering with.
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reader, TasteofIndia + ♥, writes (18 February 2009):
 I think you should just leave this guy behind. He's just got too much drama and crap going on... forget about him and don't let him get any more of your emotional energy. He's just not good enough to deserve it!
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