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writes:is it just me, or where i live, or humanity in general--- but are people just superficial as a general rule? for instance, i met this guy who is a family friend (i started working with him), and my family, who is normally accepting and friendly towards almost everyone, asks me if i think he's 'weird' (he's quiet and very reserved, but not that weird at all)...i tell them no, he isn't 'weird', just quiet, like i can be when i am around people i don't know really well. i can see that he has alot of feelings but just doesn't express them and he looks at a bigger picture than alot of people do...that's all i see about him. yeah, i've met people who are 'weird' (a relative term for everyone), but he just isn't truly weird (a word i would equate to 'dangerous'). poor kid...to me he's so begnin but is written off just because of his superficial presentation...i told my family-don't call someone 'weird' when i probably come off as 'weird' as them to people i don't know well...they said in return 'you're not weird'...but i know them very well, so of course they know a different side of me that is much more open and outgoing. are people like this everywhere? if so, that guy and i are socially screwed, because we are who we are...we can try to be different people, but at first (when we don't know someone that well), it would be so very awkward, forced, and fake to be anything but quiet and reserved (he tried to make small talk with me, and it was actually kinda comical because it just isn't how he is naturally)...are most humans so hooked on first impressions that they can't move past that???? it seems to me, that there is so much more to a person than how they intially present themselves...often, people present how they WANT to be to other people, not who they truly are. it seems that some of the most 'normal' people, are really those who are seriously 'dangerous' underneath all of the layers of bull sh*t... Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): Of course... Don't forget the other planets though! :)
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reader, q1605 +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Just look at my avatar. It's from the 1986 fly by of Uranus taken by voyager II
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionuranus must be so beautiful
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reader, q1605 +, writes (19 August 2009):
EWO* Uranus is a beautiful celestial body. It is totally composed of poisonous and asphyxiating gas, but scientist suspect a dense unyielding rocky core lies at it's center. It rotates at a right angle to the solar plane. This is thought to be so as the result of getting banged really hard and knocked cock-eyed in it's very early stages of formation. Uranus is so large that it is the farthest object anywhere in the solar system that can be seen without a telescope. It shines with the loveliest shade of blue.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 August 2009):
 q tell the folks about Uranus....
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reader, q1605 +, writes (19 August 2009):
People always think I am being a smart ass just for attention seeking purposes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I'm quiet and reserved until I get to know a person. people do think I'm a bit of a weirdo after they get to know me aswell, but, in a good way! I'm not sure if I come across as normal or not, but if it's someone I don't know that's judging me from the first time I've met them, then I try not to care anyway.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 August 2009):
Funny it's just the opposite for me. People at first think I'm normal and once they get to know me they slap on the weird label.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionq1605--
ha ha...i was actually living in southern ca for a few years, and i felt it so much down there...it's partly why i moved away!
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reader, q1605 +, writes (19 August 2009):
As a rule? Only in southern California
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (19 August 2009):
Wow, I totally understand your situation.
I too am quiet and reserved, especially when meeting new people. And people think I'm "weird". Yes, people will judge you if you dont fit the social norms. And like they say, first impressions do count. In my experience if some arrogant minded person lables a quiet or shy person to be weird when they have met them once, then things wont get any better. No matter how hard you try to open up etc, they have already made that judgement of you and you will never be the all out there, excessively cocky outgoing person that they are, so in their mind you will always be 'weird'.
However not all people judge shy people like this. There are those who are shy themselves, so are sensitive to those other quiet and shy people and can recognise that in them and therefore dont judge them. However these people are more rare. And there are also those who are just generally sensitive and empathetic people who may themselves be outgoing, but can understand taht some people are shy for a while, and it doesnt make them "weird".
Its frustrating, but anyone who judges someonebased on that, is arrogant so they arent worth your time anyway.
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