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writes:Ok, here we go... I'm needing thoughts to help me get my head around this. My best friend, is straight, forever "girl this and girls that" - but recently something has changed between us and it's led to him hugging me more (not that I'm complaining) telling me he loves me (multiple times, sober and drunk), putting X's at the end of texts, never done that in the past 4 years! We have slept in the same bed, nothing happened. We watch tv and have a few drinks and end up cuddled up right into each others laps. He treats me like a prince at all times, and keeps telling me "If he was gay, I'd be the one he spends his life with"Texting has changed too .. it's either non stop for hours, or nothing for hours. It used to just be "pub?" and general short normal texting before hand. I've always had a bit of a crush on him, in fact I probably am in love with him. But rather than ever mention or act on it, I decided it would be more fulfilling for me to have a friend who I love and who loves me, that i can do everything with, feel safe with and generally just feel lucky to have that kind of friendship with someone. But now my head is starting to get a bit sore through thinking ... is it still just the same "friend love" or are HIS feelings starting to match mine?I don't know what to do !
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 December 2017):
 I agree with Denizen,
LET him make the first move. However, if he is STRAIGHT (not bi, poly or gay) the likelihood of him wanting more than either a "try" at men or being friends is LOW.
He has already said - "IF I was gay..." which means.. he is NOT gay. And he said if he was he would want YOU - yet he hasn't acted on it - another sign that he IS NOT gay nor does he see you as more than a good friend.
I think if anything happens (he might get drunk and want to try things... it will RUIN what you have now - your friendship).
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reader, Denizen +, writes (25 December 2017):
 I would let him make the first move otherwise it could be awkward. I hope you get everything you want for Christmas.
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