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writes:I text my boyfriend this morning to ask him to come over after work so that we could talk (I want to break up with him). He immediately called and said that he was busy and couldnt come over but we could speak over the phone, he asked if I was breaking up with him (we have had some issues recently with him taking cocaine and my ex coming back on the scene messing my head up). I told him that I would rather talk face to face about it, but he wanted to know over the phone, so I broke up with him over the phone. His first reaction was "that's OK because I have met someone anyway" - when I asked who, he said he will not tell me because I probably know her. This hurt more than anything because I feel if I hadnt broke up with him, I would never have known about this other girl!I broke up with him because i dont agree with cocaine and his values and morals around it, he also leads my down an unstable path (smoking, drinking, overindulging) and I need a man who is more stable.He told me I had f***ed his life up and he never wants to speak to me again.I feel relief, but also disapointment. I suppose my point is, that I have dreaded breaking up with him for a week now, but plucked up the courage and after all the build up, it was not as bad as I thought. He's even met someone else!Anyone got any comments or support for me? I feel a bit numb at the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): He could just be lying but either way he's gone and no longer your problem, enjoy your new found freedom!
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reader, donethat  +, writes (6 December 2008):
You did well. Best thing. And now, move on with a light heart because you are free of something you knew was bad for you. Look around you, see people and places with a fresh attitude because you are your own person and not in a shadow. Life is good and you are beautiful.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (6 December 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Life stinks sometimes eh!!!!
I think you did the right thing, Ok you were not expecting the other girl bit but thankfully you now no and hopefully you will realise that you will only gain from this experience in time. Of course you are upset at this moment you were not expecting that, But if he did have an Idea you were going to do this maybe he is not really seeing anyone he may just want to save face...I do say maybe hunny..If its true then hun your well rid, You have quite enough on your plate at this moment and don't need added stress..You deep down no what its like being with someone with addiction as you said you yourself have been smoking, drinking, overindulging and you feel now is the time for a more stable path for you, Which is totally understandable. DON'T LET HIS CHILDISH REMARKS GET TO YOU LOVE!!!!YOU ARE STRONG STRONG STRONG!!!!ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOU! If you find that life at this moment is to much to bare and you just need a chat now and again to help you through message me any time hunny, When times like this come along the best thing to do is talk and get it out of your system and grow from strength to strength knowing one day you will be back to the person you want to be TAKE CARE HUNNY WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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