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Any tips on how to get a boy to kiss me and maybe even go out with me?

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Question - (29 October 2006) 111 Answers - (Newest, 12 June 2014)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

i am 14 and i haven't kissed a boy all my friends ever talk about is how is the best kissser any tips on how to get a boy to kiss me and maybe even go out with me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2014):

Hey... Um well I know how you feel k? There is a boy in my class yeah and he likes to touch (he tries but fails btw) my bottom.. He like flickers his tongue at me and pretends to do 'invisible' humping or shagging. This isn't funny unless you love the guy so just trying playing around with him like flirting. If he likes it carry on. Start hanging out with each other.. Go on a date! Go for it girl! You don't know he may kiss you first! If you do wanna kiss him try blowing a couple of kisses if he likes it kiss him on the hand or cheek. Then he will appreciate it and know you feel the same way. Go to a quiet place and kiss.. It can be awkward as your first kiss so make it a GOOD one! 3

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010):

i learnt one thing. i liked a guy that i hadn't seen in a while and im not a hair and make up girl, but when we saw each other, i made a big effort with my hair and face. it wasn't me at all. but he said he liked me after that, said i was pretty, he asked me out, so i kept making an effort just for him. i was so different for him. eventually, i realised thats who he liked, the face and hair, not the real me. it sucked. be yourself if he dont like it, hes not good enough for you. anyway you want someone who likes your inside not your face and hair... :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010):

dont flert to much but flart a little allways were perfume take it slow do nt put him under preshere hang out with him see who he relly is then go for it make him giggle just act like your self go bowling ,scateing hold hands let him take your hand when u wach a movie act like your tired and put your head on his sholder thats all my tips thanks

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010):

well...first you want to be at a place with a few of both of your friends....then suggest a game for example of which you might need to be in pairs!! this way you say "im going with you" then you go off start talking and BANG it just happens.. happened to me soo it will probably work for you...but just make sure the boy isnt with anyone and he doesnt hate you.... some boys are stupid and might think "oh look just an oppurtunity to "get off" with some one...but otherws might find..it was good and will hopefully ask you out!!! good luck out there!! ( TIP: make sure to wear perfume on your neck..and lipgloss (not too much) and SMILE (always) Good luck!)

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A female reader, hahagirl United States +, writes (8 June 2010):

first, you have to flirt. tell him like, i love your shoes or say like the outfit, even make him laugh!!! the other way is to get alittle sexy and say right in his ear "i think your sexy!" and run away. the next step is to talk to him when nobody is around. (maybe at lunch to be sexy) dont forget to tell him your intrests and more. finally, if you to are perfect for each other, he will ask you out.And, to get that first kiss you want, talk fast so he gets board and just straight on kisses you! and thats what you need for that first kiss and date.

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A female reader, nikki2832 United States +, writes (13 March 2010):

nikki2832 agony auntthis isnt that hard what you can also do is go up ask the guy and if he says no simply say ok whatever and walk away with a smile on ur face (hide the sidnees in side or for when you get home) so go over to your freinds and laughf. it may seem like ur playing hard to get to him but act like u dont care if he says no. then wait till he asks u he probably will come around.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009):

Im 13 and i fancy a boy in my class, a few weeks ago he found out, my Bff asked him out for me and he said that he's not interseted.:( (i told ppl i didnt care but later i cried.) im not sure why he said no, i have glasses and braces but i think i look quite good with them!

I think he maybee likes me now... coz he keeps looking at me and sumtimes smiles and his friend told me to ask him out for a joke :/ im not sure if thats coz he likes me and dont wanna admint it.... wat think ppl???

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009):

Ok well Im only 13 but if kissed a looooot of boys now wat I did was 1st I just hung out wit him,I was kinds flirty but I wasnt being a slut! then he just said to me in my ear kiss me.now I don't wanna be giving bad advice so after u have ur 1st kiss don't get 2 wild and have sex.u could get prego or sumthin don't think o cool I'm a mom cuz u could be a mom of 2 or3 maby even 4 that's a lot well I've written enugh by thanks.!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009):

Just be yourself. Maybe wear your hair in differnet styles or hang around with him. Ask for a pencil or a ruler or borrow something. Things happen for a reason and you just have to accept that. You need to slow down. And relax as a kid. You have loads of years to worry about all this in your late teens or maybe mid teens. My point is Just be YOU don't be the blonde or the dunb or the "I wear to much make - up and I go yellow/orange" but just be you!!!!!! All the best X

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009):

be yourself , things happen for a reason too, if you havent kissed a boy thats special your first kiss will be great , things happen when theyre ment to you will kiss a boy when ever it happens dnt think about it too much forget about it then it will pop up and be wonderfull im 13 and have kissed numerous boys and i personally tthink that it was a waste now when i do kiss it wont b as speciall , trust me be ur selff dnt be too klinggy but tlk to him then dnt tlk 2 him 4 a bit ,, if he does like u for who u r then he will miss u n cum after u ,, anywayyy u want ur kiss 2 b with sum 1 that likes u dnt youu so let fait rest in ur hands and go with the flowww .,,i would put moreee but i think i have put enough hope i helpeddd drl,'x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009):

Well, if you are quite young, say 10-15, usually a boy likes funny people. So, what you should do is go up to them, say you fancy him and tell him a little joke. If you have no idea how to say that, this is what you should say, " Hi, I should have told you this earlier, but I sorta fance you" Do a big smile, close your eyes and show all your teeth in a funny way. Wait fot him to say something. If he asks a question, answer it then say " Oh, you wanna know I joke that I think it quite funny? Well, what do you get if you cross a porcupine and a great white shark? I have no idea, let's just... RUN!" Then say "Hey, you know the way I fancy you, well, will you go out with me or kiss me or something?" Usually, (I know it sounds weird but) they say "Yeah, sure!" If he doesn't just laugh and say "Ok" Then look quite sad. Just see what happens. I am only 10 but it worked when I did it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008):

Well for one thing, I suggest that you should be who you are. Never treat him any different than you treat your freinds. Trust me, I'm only 13 but don't pick a guy that just looks cute, rate them on how they treat everybody else. That will show the other guys that if they straightened up or relize you single they may ask you out. Always flirt with guys . That will show that your an outgoing person and ready to give a guy a chance. And don't rush your first kiss, that will lead into bigger problems like the guy may think your ready to have sex and rape you. I feel like crap for rushing my first kiss and it's not worth it. Do not pay any attention to your freinds, there probably are looking for some trouble. Try a few of my tips and see if thay help. If they do i'm glad.

,Lindsey

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A female reader, Alyson200987654321 Åland Islands +, writes (24 December 2008):

I fancy this boy. but he found out i

liked him.His friends tried to get us together

to kiss.the next day he thought my friend fancyed

him so she told him that it was me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008):

well you should sweet and flirtyish.And be kind nice and and a good litener so just wait a little longer you will find that guy trut me and i am ten and i am giving out advice you will find the guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, miss-gemma United Kingdom +, writes (16 July 2008):

just be yourself around him,yes you can flirt a little bit,

but most boys like girls who dont act like there someone else.

if you know he likes you then ask him out.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008):

ok i'm 14 and my first kiss when i was 11 ... think .. anyay .. don't be afraid to make a move .. if you know he likes you then jus go for it. i mean i have kissed loads of boys its not realy a big deall.. lol but if you realy care about your first kiss make sure its with someone special .. make sure you are comfortable with him and the situation. don't be scared incase he thinks you are a rubbish kisser he is probably thinking the same thing!!!! my first kiss was ok but not the best.. you improve as you do it more.

so remeber DON'T WORRY OBOUT IT!! your time will come sooner or later.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008):

i have had the same problem as i am also 14 and i have never kissed a boy , i feel as if i will only kiss a boy if i really like them or if we have a future in a way .

but i wouldnt worry about kissing boys if you think about it your only 14 and my advice is if theres someone you like try the 'boychallenge'

1)get them to know your name

2)get them to notice you ( dont emmbarres you , say something when your with a group of people and your all talking and hes there say something that makes him smile and look into yuor eyes

3)get him to kiss you ( you dont have to do this step but if you want to go out with him i suggest you do )

4- get him to ak you out - this could be after months , depending on how it goes.

but remember dont just kiss any random boy because all your friends do , wait until you have found someone you really like then , see any signs of them liking you .

but most inportranty if there already in a relationship dont try and break them up it will only make them angry at you .

but then if they break up after a while you be the one to comfort him , and then knowing eachother will turn into friendship , then friendship will turn into trust and trust will turn into love or something maybe a little less deep then love because were only teens at the end of the day !

have fun with the boy challenge , its working for me !xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008):

i'm also 14 and i have never kissed a boy or had a boy friend (And its not cos im ugly cos im not lol). And i am allways saying to myself why havn't i been kissed. But after a while i kinda got used to it and told myself that my time will come.

Hope you get a boyfriend soon xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008):

i fancy this boy (were at the same school and form) and i have done for a LONG time and we used to have golf lessons together and i tried to flirt with him and when my mum came to pick me up she used to say he fancys you. But after a while i got bored of the lessons and quit. And then after a couple of weeks we kinda started to drift apart and he hardly speaks to me now, and i REALLLLY like him. What should I do?

anonymous - age 14

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008):

Hello i'm 18 and i'm Gay .. and i met this guy whos 19 and we went on a double date to the cinemas!! went really well and everything we kissed laods of times heald each others hands it was just perfect and felt right. He told me he doesnt want a relationship because he has just come out of a 3 month one 5 week ago.. His boyfriend cheated on him wit his friend. I'm absoloutly gutted because i got butterflies when i kissed him it felt so right. I dont want to just be friends with him i want so much more. I told him i will defferntly get with him and he will be mine he laughed and said cool. He said maybe one day we could be together, Have you got any tips for me please?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

there is this guy i like we always hang out with each other and he's really funny people say he has a crush on me and he does cause he's brother gave me his journal that said he liked me should ask him out or just intill he's ready to ask me out.

love,shannel

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

there is this guy i like we always hang out with each other and he's really funny people say he has a crush on me and he does cause he's brother gave me his journal that said he liked me should ask him out or just intill he's ready to ask me out.

love,shannel

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

well wen your writin look up at him with out moving your head and if hes looking at you do a little grin and look down again

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008):

I think you should be your self ask him if he likes you if he says yes then walk away slowly and hope that he has questions because then he will wont to know more about you if he says no just said it was a dare thanks bye

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008):

i have this boy 'the hottest'but my friend likes him too help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007):

i am a lot like you i am 17 and when i was 15 my friends were talking about sex.well i couldn't join in on the conversaion becuase i was a vergin.so i went and found some

guy and i had sex with him.i regret it so much now cause i did not save myself and wait for the perfect guy.i had to have an abortion.now i can't forgive myself.so now i go and get on web sites like this and go to schools and talk to kids that think they have to prove themselves.i droped out of school last year.you would think i would be doing teribly.i go to 10 different schools a day to share my story.i want to tell you think twice.find the right guy.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007):

don't do that.find someone u like, then get them 2 ask u

2 be his gf. then after u get comfortable with each other

then u might kiss.don't do it just 2 talk about it, make

it count. remember don't fall 4 peer pressure.

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A female reader, babygurl19 United States +, writes (11 December 2007):

hi i am 16 well the first thing is get to know the boy first but if you and the boy that you like have been frinds for a while that is how i met my boyfrind 3 years ago he will make the first move ok i was friends with my boyfrind for almost a year and now we are dating been together for almost 3 years now he was my best friend well good luck and i hope you get your fist kissed.... xo xo xo

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007):

Hey im 12 years old i have kissed a few guys myself so here is how you get what you want... First of all you need to know the guy. Guys dont like when girls come on to the before they dont even know you. So... you should talk to him, say hi or hows it goin or if you have his number you could send him sweet text messages. But dont think that you can plant a smooch on him yet!After you and him have talked for a while you should asked him out on a date......... in my opinion first dates always end with a goodnight kiss!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007):

That's a good question! Of course i'm 10 and have kissed a boy, well it was a surprise kiss! anyway, don't try to get a boy to kiss you, when the time is right, it'll come! :-D

Love,

Molly

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007):

dont worry u will find the lucky guy one day be patient

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007):

I am 18 years old and when i got my first kiss i was at a hotel birthday party and the guy i really liked who is now going to be marrying me was there. I had avoided him all night until it came time to play the games and everything. It was my freshman year and we had some upper class people there with us so we came up with good games. The one game that we played was spin-the-bottle! He made it to were it turned to me. And that is how i got my first kiss. Just play something like that. And the whole dating thing! Ask him to the movies or help with your homework, just flirt with him during that time or talk to one of your friends that is really good friends with him. Just give it sometime then start talking to him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007):

Walk up to him and hold his hand during a passing period. Don't say a word, let your hand do the talking. Slowly, cup his hand in your hands and bring it up to your lips. Kiss the top of the hand softly, and look at him in the eyes. While you kiss his hand, look at him in the eyes. then drop his hand and walk of.

That's hot. It always works for me, guys love that shit.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007):

hya, i was 15 when i first had my proper kiss and i was terrified that i would do it wrong...mine came about during a game of dares and i just went for it...tell your friends to do something like this and i bet that neither you or him will regret it...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007):

Be yourself show him your talents with out making it too obvious that you like him. Flirt with him and talk to him. That will get him to like you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007):

hey im 13 and i think that its ok if u have not kissed a guy let i have and its not big deal...wen your friends start talkin about it juss stay quite and how to get a guy to go out with u r kiss u is first to become friends and then about 2 months after hard working flirting ask him out!!!dont be shy and BE confident about it then after u date for a while go in 4 it and he wil back!!

i hope this will help u

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007):

Okay,, first of all..you shouldnt have to worry about what your friends are saying. You cant make a guy kiss you or go out with you.. only if they have feelings for you. Plus if you pressured someone to go out with you.. they might not have feelings for you. and in the end of that.. you wouldnt be happy..

just be happy for who you are.. you dont have to kiss a guy to be accepted.. maybe your friends think that... but show them you dont... :]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007):

this is tricky just be yourself and keep doing quick sharp looks at him/her. smile and laugh wen you do it if he/she laughs or smiles back, make shure you are alone and make the first moove, e,g "do u like me" if they say yes(if its a girl) ring your fingers thrue her hair. if its a boy put your hand on his sholder it will go from there. :) hope this works it worked 4 me

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007):

all this stuuf is cool but what i say is to have fun and flirt. its harmless and fun and you cant make anything worse w/flirting

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

hey im 14 atm and ive had loads of kisses and strangly enough i regret them all i never stay in a realtionship

i think you should wait till somone nice comes along if it helps 3% of the population ends up alone you wont be one of them.hope i helped xx and my cousin was 21 when she first kissed somone xx shes realy happy she waited x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007):

Ok--first of all you have to know if a boy likes you. If not, start flirting. Chat it up girlfriend! Smile and laugh a lot(don't worry if you have braces, in fact, boys actual like to kiss girls with braces--its a new experience for them). When you and the guy you like are alone, try to lead him to a place where you know no one else will be. A great thing to do is to lead him to a place that you want to "show him something" and tell him how that place is important to you. And as you finish your last sentence(he would have been watching you the whole time by now), then let your words fade off. Slowly get closer and closer to him. Tilt your head the opposite of his. Press your lips(chapstick is the best way to go for kissing) against his, grab his neck(you can work your hands on his neck, back, ears, chest, hands--anywhere), and slowly begin kissing. You can stop it at a close mouth, or if you both are pleased with what is going on so far(trust me, you'll know--he won't stop kissing you!)slide your mouth slightly over his lips, and dart your lips through his. Lick his lips and then as you guys both start frenching, make sure you intensify your hand movements and your deepness. Once you guys are starting to get more and more comfortable in this kiss, go deep for it. Focus on his hands, press your body tight to his, feel his breath on your face, run your fingers through his hair. Get completely lost. DO NOT HAVE SEX. You are not old enough. But you can go as far as you want in kissing as long as you don't take of all of your clothing and start grinding him, you're ok. Plus you'll have him hooked. For the next few days smile at him--and don't kiss him. He'll practically be BEGGING for more of that first kiss. Knock em dead.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007):

hi im 13 and if a guy dosent notice you then hard on him u want someone that notices you for who you are just be your self and your time will come

hope i helped x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007):

Well lots of people will give you different answers, i'm jst 15 and my answer is 2 when your with a boy that yhoo like flirt like any thing and then draw attention to your lips like touch them gently just dont look like a idiot or look at his and make it oveois but not to much. if he likes you then stuff should happen but other wise get really drunk with bois n it'll happen but ur young so dnt do any thing more!!!

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A female reader, T.C United Kingdom +, writes (12 September 2007):

hiya dont worry your self about it your time will come and when it does it will be that whole much more special cuz u no u wld have waited for the right 1 to do it with.

ur friends may have already done it but ur bigger for not doing it and once u have u will be the 1 that can say how much u enjoyed it cuz it was with the right person so dont fret because your time will come.x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007):

hey dont worry about not having kissed a boy ur time will come and when it does it will feel that whole lot more special because you no u have waited and its with some1 u reli want to be with. so dont thret cuz if ur m8s have done they will soon get bored and u will be the one that has got it all to come.

good luck and hope u find that some1 to share ur 1st with

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007):

yes i do noe yu have to go up to the guy and dont be scared and become his friend first and then after a while yu lean in and kiss him but make sure yur breath smells good or is minty

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A female reader, richka United States +, writes (1 September 2007):

yes flrit but dont be to egare

waer sexy ware to make the person notice you and then pass by and say hi tohim in front of his friends hi boys in a sexy way

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007):

you can't magically get a kiss, you have to work for it. seek out a guy that is appealing you and start to talk and become friends and then maybe if he starts to like you as a girlfriend he will deffinitly try to kiss you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007):

Hey, well..

Im 13 and Ive Had My First Kiss..Look Out For Guys Who Keep Eye Contact with you a lot and who also seem to like being close to you.

Making The First Move Is Up To You..

If I Was you..i would ask some of my closest friends about it they could help more than you think.

Hope I Helped A Bit x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007):

hay dont worry about it i have got this guy and i am giving him all the signs but it is so not working. but today he told me he loves me in this voice that he never uses unless he realy means it maby a kiss is coming my way.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007):

YOUR 14! You don't kiss. Wait, not at that age.Thats bad.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007):

I have the same problem as you. i am 16 and have not done anything with a girl. but from what i have seen from my friends is that it is usualy the girl who has to make the first move.

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A male reader, vpdragon0 United States +, writes (20 August 2007):

vpdragon0 agony aunthey im 14 years old and when i had my first kiss i just went with the flow.. i rele loved making out tho. its alot of fun actully. My Girlfriend and I are really taking it slow.. like last two days ago i kissed her. and she said she not ready.[first kiss for her]. and i respected that. She wasnt ready or just want to take it slow .. thats what she told me.. so i just wait for her until she ready... becuz i dont want to rush or do anything stupid to lose her.. she rele something special.. so if a guy try to kiss u .. if ur ready just go for it.. its no right or wrong to kiss someone.. only depending what they want.. so just relax and have fun!..

hope it helps..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007):

im 14 to and i havent kissed a boy yet ever but dont worry your time will came just like mine will just have pashants

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A female reader, -x-too-shy-x- United Kingdom +, writes (10 August 2007):

just relax about it let nature take its course just try a bit of flirtin but not to much otherwise they will think your desperate just enough to make them notice you then see how it goes from there

hope it helps plz tell me if it does

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007):

just don't make a big deal out of it if he likes u he will be the one to kiss u if he doesn't well scru him ya........

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007):

hey whats up

you dont have to kiss any body if you dont want to and to get a guy to dat you olny thing you have to do get in to what do intest and get him to notice you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007):

Yeah, Flirt but dont make it obvious as if u desperate or greedy, only do it if both of you like each other. So dont force it to someone who doesnt feel the same way 4 u.U'l feel humiliated

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007):

I think that you should forget about what your friends say and you should wait for the right time to go out with a boy or even kiss him because that is a very special time that you should save.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007):

most guys are confused on when a girl wants to be kissed or not. you have to show the boy that you want hiim to kiss you. the most blunt way to do this is to tell him you want to kiss him. but that takes alot of courage! and if hes not into you, you face rejection.

is he smiling when hes around you? does he lean in close to you when your sitting next to eachother or walking together?

those things can show if he's into you or not. if he is then you should stand close to him. lean in close to him. its good to wear some purfume too bc guys love girls that smell good. if your walking together, try gently brushing your hand aginst his a few times. he should grab it and hold your hand but if he doesnt then try catching his and interlocking your fingers. look him in the eyes. like really give him an intense flirty look. and dont forget to smile alot.

a trick that you could try is to ask him to help take the back off your earring. you could say it's stuck or you cant get it off. in order to take it off both of his hands will end up touching your neck. look him in the eyes and smile. be quiet though. if he says anything or starts to talk, interupt by whispering his name or saying it softly and look into his eyes. then he's sure to kiss you. but if he doesnt take the hint you can lean in. by this time you should be standing pretty close to eachother. if you do this, the kiss is sure to happen. good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007):

yes email them and ask them how they feel.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007):

well u shoud pratice kissing first then before u ask ask him if he whats 2 kiss

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007):

hey girl you need to flirt let him know that you are VERY interested in him earn his trust and become his friend that is a good turn on. be honest and if you are a brave person say on the phone that you want to kiss him

you are a girl stand tall and be who you are no one esle guys hate fakes.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007):

my frend had a problem like this but she was 13 and she had a bf and he wanted to kiss her and she was really wrorried and wen he came up 2 her she kissed hi and she sed everything was fine and she dint hav anything to be scared of. she also sed it wernt as bad ad she though it would be... so wen ur ready u will be fine it just comes to u naturally

dont let ur frends wind u up about all them kissin sum 1 and u not if they do then there not ur real mates

thankssss

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A female reader, :):):) United Kingdom +, writes (16 June 2007):

I used to worry like mad about this before I did, but truth is there isnt a "right way" just go with what feels right for you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007):

hi i have the same problem with my cousin she has never ever kissed a boy and she is a year older than mei told her it does feels great all my friends have got off with hot boys and it can make you feel like the one out but eventually your get there like i am trying but always make a sensible choice on which guy you kiss not just any guy

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007):

ok if u really like him, and ur friends with him and you no him well then ask him out on a date and if he says ok then wen ur on the date make moves and then if ur ready than make the move and kiss him..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007):

you gotta play hard to get, guys dont like girls who are constantly chasing after them its a big turnoff. talk to him but not too much. make him want to know more about you. act like your not that interested in him but make it clear enough to make him no that u like him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007):

Hiiiyyyaaaahh

Same with my friiend here..

But she dusnt let it bother her.

She iz gunna wait for tha riite boy =]

Dont let yor friends pressure you.

dont be afraid of who you are!

If they ask you wether youh have kissed anyone,

say no and shrug it off casually.

Dont be flustered or embarassed coz it is

nothing to worry about at your age.

Looooots Of Loooooove 3

Oh and our tip to a BF is ..

F L I R T !

Talk to boyz nd get their numbers.

We garuntee your first kiss in no time! =D

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007):

Well I had a problem somewhat like yours when I was 13. Me and this boy had liked each other alot and we started going out and he hadnt kissed me after 3 montsh so I just did it, just keep close to the boy you like, it'll happen. I promise.

No sex yet please.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007):

just stand nex to him and talk sweetly that always catches a boys attention

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2007):

ok girl u have 2 flirt with him and look really hot because im not even 14 and i got a 14 year old oh and dont act slutty cause that is a major turn off and plan stuff @ the same time as him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007):

you got to flirt,flirt,flirt and make him jealous take to one of his friends make him like you maybe take up a new hobby the same one as his.but remember to be confident but not mean boys dont like nasty people...............and that will make him go out with you then eventually kiss you bye xox from gonna-be-a-popstar

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007):

First of all, I wouldn't sweat gettin' a boy to kiss me. Because most of the time boys want FULL BLOWN VIRGINS. No kisses given out or nothing. But to get a boy to kiss u, tellin' exactly how u feel. Pop-up the question and let him know why you want too. That's what I think.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007):

well try flirting with him! Get together with a group of people and arrange a game of spin the bottle.........etc or go out onm a group date

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007):

Well Im 13 and i first kissed sumone at 12 at a party i got off with him and it was gd but dont rush it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007):

ok, well if u want to jus do it jus becuz everybody else did, then u will make a mistake becuz most likely u will want to do it so bad that u'll kiss anybody and ur first kiss will b with sumone that u dont even like. So, jus wait until u see a guy that u like, and work ur way up to that piont. Good luck!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007):

Go up to him and tell him he is hot, he will surely like you then!

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A female reader, x-lana-x United Kingdom +, writes (11 March 2007):

x-lana-x agony aunthiya, have never kissed a boy either, yet all my firends have, remember you dont have to do something just because other people have, or your afraid you'll be the odd one out. and if you really want to go out with a boy, give it time, find one you can TRULY imangine yourslef gonig out with him, maybee ask your friends to help, or get to know him better first, and most of all, be yourself.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007):

If u a party girl u can get any guy u want I'm just 12 going to b 13 dress pretty see through shirt tiet pants lip gloss nails always carry your cell phone hang out wit a bunch of your friends then dance close to a guy when ur tipsy and never have food before kissing or something in ur teeth that's the edvice my couzin gave me but I never had my first kiss never maybe when I turn 13 but its not going to mean anything and always have minty or candy breath..try it it might work!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007):

well im 14 2 and a lad with the same problem, make a leen towards the guy get bout halfway to his lips and if he likes u just as much he will do the rest, relax, anytips on girls?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2007):

Well, I know how you feel my friends all have boyfriends and I didnt and they always talk about tht to. My advice to you is search for the guy you like if you already have that talk to him and get to know him. Once you become comfotable enough with each oher give it a try, it wont hurt to try!! It worked for me and hopefully it will work for you!! Best wishes

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007):

first pick a romantic place u like and ask him out to there.make sure your breath is minty fresh or else he wont like kissing u.wait till he puts his arms around u and u have to lay on his shoulder.then look on him and go closer to him and he'll kiss u.when he walks u home he might kiss u and ask u out.U 2 LOVEBIRDS HAVE FUN!!!

love,Angel

tell me if my tips and steps work.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007):

tell him how u feel and dont be shy to tell him, maybe he likes u 2.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007):

If u want a boy to kiss u put on shiny lip gloss clean your teeth hang out with them call them of they are on a basketball team or any team go watch there game ask them to watch a movie with u maybe u will gwt your first kiss

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007):

My recommendation is to first become friends with a guy you like. then, find out his interests, hobbies, likes, etc. After you have been friends for a while, act flirtatious and see what happens. Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007):

Hi... You shouldn'd really worry about it... You don't need to worry at 14. I'm only 13, I haven't kissed anyone. You should only want to kiss someone as badly as you do, if there is someone you like. I'll assume there is. Just be yourself... Do your hair in a cool way, they notice hair. Dunno why, but they do. Also, just act cool. If you catch him looking at you, just wave at him and smile. Get to know his friends.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007):

my fiend has the exact same problem but my advice is to get more involed and hang around with your mates and the guys and just be your self mabey a bit of mascara lippy and do your hair or they'll think your a total dingbat but the bet way is just have a laugh and be yourself.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

well i would say to just get a boyfriend and then kiss him or ask him if he wants to x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

thx it works butt wat do u do if he is goin out wiv somone

from another school who seems to be so pretty coz he mr cutey is goin out wiv him .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

kiss your next boyfriend or just make up a reason to kiss a boy on the cheek....

or tell him to unlock the chain on your necklace and then bump into his face, then whisper his name and look deep into his eyes. then kiss him and stare him in the eyes and say i love you!!

hope it works!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

to make a boy kiss you? well you where shiny lip gloss and when your going to leave or go somewhere else you go into his arm a little and get a sexy voice to say good bye and get you lips a little close to his and then say bye

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2007):

Look at him straight into his eyes with passion. Then smile and get kinda close to him. You might want to talk a little bit and flirt with him. Then play with him and pretend to accidently bump into him face toface. Then again look at him with love and lots of passion. If he doesn't make the move then you take the big great risk and go for it. Give him any kind of kiss you would rather like, then when you are done you might want to whisper something like "I love you" then give him a flirtatuos smile. That way he'll know that you really do like him or at least think you do. Don't woorry if he doesn't make the move it's probably cause he's too shy, or afraid that you will back away.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007):

Well You Are Only 14 Wait Awile It Will Come Around Once Awhile,If U Get A Boyfriend U Go 4 A Kiss Maybe He Will Go Alone Wit It.To Get A Boyfriend One Day Go Get Yo Hair Did,Nails And Buy A New Outfit Dress To Impress Then When U Get Who Eva U Wanted Then U Dress How Eva U Wanna Dress

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007):

i am 13 and i kissed a boy once and it was nothing special to me because i didn't really like the guy. well i liked him but it just wasn't like i thought it would be. so just wait for the RIGHT guy and the moment will come for you hopefully!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007):

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thnx ppl these tips have bin a great help FANKOO!!!

...x 3

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007):

im your age and havent been kissed either! i know its not fair! but, you know, when we grow old and look back on all of the things weve done in our lives, well laugh. ( and probably be in a relationship then,too)those friends of yours could possibly be lying, just to seem omg so totally popular or whatever.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007):

I'm only 18 so maybe i remember being your age more than others in here (not meaning at all that my answers will be any wiser, however). In the right situation, like the right party, a 14 year old guy will make out with anything that sends him the right signals. If potted plants could give meaningful looks and end up conveniently alone in a room, they'd be getting all the action, but I severely discourage that route. Unless you really just want to have a make-out session so you can feel like you're on the same level as your friends, I'd focus on finding answers to the second part of your question. Other people in here have given good advice on how to focus on getting into a rational relationship, and I guess I'm just supporting them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007):

LOL, oh the complexities of teenager dating.

A few of you are pathetic, I guy will even notice you or he won't, no calculated "hair brushing", etc.

These answers obviously come from quite immature kiddies who, rather than can give you good advice are giving you their incredably poor personal-tips!

1. If a guy doesn't notice you - you do nothing but move on. You, as a women, are strong and beautiful to attract the right kind of guy for you. So don't belittle yourself in to trying so hard, it's degrading to all of your sex.

2. You never try and get a guy to kiss you or go out with you, unless you want to get drunk and consequently make a big fool of yourself. Hey - maybe you'll even get pregnant too eh? No no no. If a guy likes you, he'll pursue asking you on a date, or asking if he may kiss you. If a guy does not do this, then he is not interested in you and you pushing him is likely to bring out his sexual desire for you, nothing more. And the last thing we need is yet another generation of low-esteem women who judge their worth on how much attention they get from guys. If not for you, do it for the consequent 1000's of unwanted babies that are going to be born in to an environment where their mother is too immaturely developed to deal with her self let alone another life.

Oooh, heavy answer here by me. What I'm saying is, girls, you are a symbol of beauty, love, respect and kindness for a man, and if that man doesn't see these things, and pursue YOU then he is not the right kind of man for you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007):

trust me i totally understand your problem. You need to be very confident and independant. This may sound stupid but guys do notice everything. Dont look to desperate just keep it cool and play hard to get. make yourself stand out, have ur own style, and let him notice you. Flirt alittle by complimenting him, smile, let him see the real you. Start a conversation, but dont be thinks omg he think i'm a freak. Your face should be saying" why is this freak talking to me. Then talk with him for five minutes alone, laugh and throw your head back, and then leave him alone. Let him come after you and if he dosnt dont seem worried. keep doin it he'll be so annoyed he'll keep coming by you. From then on make ur move. Good Luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007):

Well just be your self and he will get to like the reall you and it will come by it self that he likes you i was also 14 before a boy kissed me and i am regreting the 4 boys i have kissed before even if i love them two bits

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A female reader, ladyeedime +, writes (26 December 2006):

just flirt with him its the best way and get tips from other websites and do all the signs you can to show him you are intrested!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006):

try to start a conversation with him or her. Just ask if he likes you. If he says no just say ok I just wanted to prove it to my friends. If he says yes say maybe we could go out sometime.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006):

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All your tips have been brillant Thanx!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006):

well if u r really pretty i would think that he would go for u. but if he dosen't he is a luser.WELL GOT TO GO.GOOD LUCK

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006):

my tip to you would be if yopu like him then just say to him and se how he feels about you a have tried it and it worked for me just give it a try and let me know and try and sneak in a kiss ok bubi xo

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006):

How can I get a boy to notice me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006):

just go up to him and gently take hold of his face and then kiss him if you want to you can just give a kwick peck or if you want you can play tonsul tenis.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006):

firstly, is there anyone you like?if so try to get close to them by chatting, hanging out etc, but try not to be clingy. then,simple drop hints theat you like them, if they dont take them, they may not like you.but dont give up. kissing is easy, a peck on the cheek or lips would be easy to start with..just pout and touch there lips/cheek. then theres the kissing with tongues, its better to be doing this with someone hus done it before, but simply start with a peck, but with more pressure, then run your tongue over ther lips, and prise oopen ther lips with it, and massage ther tongue, remember to swallow!!!good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006):

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Thanx alot for u r tip

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A male reader, scarfaces19 +, writes (29 October 2006):

start flirting wiv a boy u fancie and then start hanging about with him and then see how he feels about you then if he likes u go for it and ask him out or wait till he asks u out.

then wen ur together start holding hands and then start trying 2 kiss him or if he goes 2 kiss u let him

hope thats some help

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