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writes:hey guys and gals just a quick question. what do i do here? i have been with my gf for 3 years now almost. we have a 1 year old kid which is tough but life is great. it gets hectic at times but i expect that. but our sex life has gone south. when we do it we have the baby in the room and shes starting to notice things even more and its weird its a turn off for me and i really cant get into it. we also have a dog thats like attatched to us and wants to be around us every 5 seconds. so its almost like having two kids. lol. so what do i do because i cant cum in her like i used to. im still attracted to her shes sexy but its so hard. and when she wants to have sex its like 10-11 at night and im like dead tired. and the babys in the room still and its just the usual nonsense. but when we do have sex i try to get into it but i get tired and sweaty and i get lazy. what do i do here? i gotta spice this up? she likes to get kinky too. so what should i do? she thinks im not into her and its not that its just i cant get this mood right! ahhhhhhh!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Get the baby and dog out of the room. You will be able to hear the baby though the door, or leave the door open (put the dog in another room with closed door so it can't disturb you) and have the baby right outside the room. So that is she cries you can hear her right away. But she wont be able to see anything.
Just get them both out of your bedroom! Buy a baby alarm or what they call those thingies, give the baby its own room, and then when she cried you will hear her over the speaker. An example: http://www.lightinthebox.com/Wireless-Baby-Alarm--RD-668---Start-From-5-Units-_p45884.html
And make sex a core. Do it, even if you are feeling lazy. Once you get into it you will enjoy it. Remember sex doesn't have to take longer than 15 minutes! That isn't a lot of time to ask for. Go for the quickies, and then plan something more sensual and time consuming when the baby is staying over at someone elses house (I am sure you have a grandmother who could baby sit?).
As a last resort, if you can't bother with sex, and your wife is feeling undesired, give her a massage. Give her attention. Be sensual in your touch. Take a shower with her. The important thing is that you two stay intimate and close, so that the baby doesn't make you drift apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): can you try and put baby into its own room? Usually that would happen after the first few weeks/months. Give the dog a big bone outside and have bubba in their own room and you'll find the mood is ok again
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