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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now... Right before i 1 year anniversary, she freaked out. The last time i saw her everything was fine, then i recieved no replies to texts for 1 week, at first, she said she was busy, as she has a 4 year old daughter, but further attempts to get her to contact her were met with less than success as i never recieved answers. I finally caved in and called her only to be confronted by her being angry because of me. I know i'm a cynic, and all, but in the end, i always mean well, and she, for the past year at least understood that... She was primarily angered by me for the fact that I only contact her when i want her to come out, and that basically, in a nut shell, she feels that I have been holding her back (she never actually said it, but it's easily implied by our conversation). Her complaints included her not having a good relationship with her father (even though she never had one from my conversations with her previously), her not wishing to maintain a casual relationship and in general, me holding her back... Everything she complained about was something i actually blatantly encouraged her to do, and now she blames me for not doing it. Her primary complaint is that she needs time, and that she doesn't think i'm "in love" with her even though she reassures me she is "in love" with me, also, after our conversation, I ended up feeling as if I am the root of all her problems. I desperately love this girl and don't want it to end. I told her i can give her a week as its not fair to ask me to wait any more than that for a response as to what she feels we need to do. I'm doing my best to give her that week without me in it, but i still feel as i'm losing her and any help or insight into what she might be feeling would be much appreciated. I mean, I have always encouraged her to do exactly what she told me i was holding her back from
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, today is the day. She tells me. I'm prepared for the worst, but def not prepared for the best. My concern now is whether or not to stay with her as I have a suspicion she will do something like this again. Also, if she doesn't contact me which is also a feeling i'm getting, I'm not sure if I should just write her off or attempt to contact her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf I may add, She also mentioned that she has been too focused on me and has been depressed for the past month, which supposedly went away when I was out of the picture for the 2 weeks we were apart.
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reader, zombiechick666 +, writes (24 January 2010):
 wow seems like u have quite the problem my advice give her space for a little from the looks of it i dont think its u making her mad i think she just may be stressed nd is taking out on the first thing that makes contact with her.You.Let her cool off if its real love then you'll pull through
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