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male
age
30-35,
*Nick
writes:Maybe this problem will resolve itself sooner than I'll hear from y'all, but I'm stuck at work for the next hour with nothing to do and this on my mind, so here goes:Met this girl through a friend 3ish weeks ago. Immediately hit it off really well. We’ve gone out twice since, and (perhaps foolishly) bought tickets to a show in a month. We’ve been in constant contact from the word go, a plethora of texts/snapchats/phone calls/skypes (sometimes the Skypes lasting 4+ hours while I’m working my less-than-demanding night job). All of the lengthy skype convo’s have been initiated by her, but it’s been a lot of fun for both of us.So yeah, we’ve been pretty inundated by each other. Last night, during the latter half of a lengthy Skype, I asked where I should pick her up tomorrow, since today was her day off and we talked about picnicking today earlier in the week. She started to answer, and then told me never mind I know how much she hates people spending money on her, and even if it’s just gas, she thinks it’s a waste of money for me to drive out.Of course I replied that it was no problem, that the gas/money wasn’t a problem, and that as long as she still wanted to see me, I’d like to see her again. She weirdly froze up. So I told her, if she didn’t, it’s not a big deal and to let me know, and I’ll back off. She again didn’t say anything. So it went on like that for a while, maybe 20 mins, me getting more and more frustrated because it was pretty much a yes or no question, that the only answers I could get were A) she didn’t want me wasting the money to go out there and B) she doesn’t want me to become the guy that ditches his friends for her. Or if I asked why she couldn’t just answer a yes or no question, it was because I know how awkward she can get. But mostly she just sat there silent. So after several last ditch efforts to assure her that neither of those are valid concerns, I was just like, I’ve had enough of this, goodnight, and hung up.A little prickish, and a lot out of character, I know, but 20+ minutes of her hiding from the camera, not saying anything, I was a little confused and frustrated. I tried to call back immediately, but got ignored, whatever, I figured I’d give her the night.Neither of us are the type of people to sleep well after something like that so I texted her maybe 2 hours later to see if she was still up.Texted her when I got to work in the morning, like I always do. Thought about the events and sent a subsequent text apologizing for being a little prickish the night before. She’s been active on social media, popped back online on skype, but no texts back.I don’t expect much, but a yeah, listen, I’m just not that into you. Or it’s okay, sorry I was so weird would be nice. Or even, It’s not okay, you’re the biggest prick I’ve ever met in my life for last night, but something.Any ideas of what could be going through her mind? We were getting along so well, and I’m not hung up on this, it’s just that this was so sudden, I honestly think I have whiplash. I’m not sure how to play it. I don’t do well playing games, much more of a talk and solve the problem or on to the next one type, but we did have the start of something really good going, so I don’t want to drop her to soon if anyone thinks there’s merit here.Thanks,Nick.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (10 June 2014):
 Sounds likel you are one of many men that she is Skype ing. I know it's not what you want to hear but she seems to be living her life online and not in the real world like so many do now. People come across as being confident and more open when in text. But take down all the barriers and they pannic . I would suggest keeping your distance because if she really cares she will do the chasing for a change. Hope this helps
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 June 2014):
 I would totally back off. IF she wants to talk, LET her be the one to make the first move now. YOU have given her ample opportunity to say what she thinks.
Since you met through friend have you asked the friend that know her what's up with her?
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