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writes:What advice about talking dirty during sex do you have? Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Hey sugar, make sure both of you are happy with it first, ask if they like what you are doing, and make sure you are showing how much fun you are having.. Make sure you are happy to do this, have fun :) I hope i helped, Feel free to mail me aout anything x
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reader, Miss_Oz +, writes (24 November 2007):
 As with all relationship matters, I believe communication is the key. Talking dirty in bed with a partner should be talked about seriously first, before any attempts are actually made. This might seem a bit unsexy but it could save embarassment or grave mistakes being made. If you want to start talking dirty and don't mention it and then try it during lovemaking, your partner may be emabarassed or feel they've been put on the spot, killing their mood and making both of you feel silly. Even if you try it that way and your partner does get into it, with no boundaries set beforehand something could be said that one of you doesn't like; another mood killer. Some people like degrading talk in bed, to call their partner or to be called derogatory names, such as whore or bitch but there's no guarantee a partner will be in favour of this. You must set out some ground rules first, such as listing the things you don't want to be called, or the things you don't want to hear. This can help prevent an embarassing moment and a buzzkill later on. If you are not very vocal in bed to begin with, you might try starting to moan a little more during sex and foreplay, making appreciative noises when your partner is doing something you enjoy and saying very brief things like, 'that feels good' and 'don't stop'. If your partner is not up for sexual talk in bed then don't push them, don't go ahead and spring it on them during the throes of passion; they will more than likely be annoyed that you're not respecting them, than get into the swing of it. Relaxing and feeling comfortable is another key element, starting off small, with those same simple phrases I mentioned before. You'll soon get into a rhythm of what feels comfortable and you will quickly learn what things you each enjoy hearing most, judging by each others' responses. One very important thing to remember; never laugh at something your partner says. To begin with you might feel nervous or a little awkward but just try to go with the flow, if something sounds a bit silly then say something else, or take a break from attempting such talk for a few minutes by giving each other a long kiss. Laughing will make your partner feel ridiculous, put them off continuing the session and make them dismiss the whole dirty talk idea altogether. If it turns out it's not as much fun as you thought it might be, you've not really lost anything by trying and if it does, then you and your partner have just found something to share that will make lovemaking that little bit more exciting.
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