New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Anal sex - to do or not to do.

Tagged as: Sex<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (17 April 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 25 April 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Should I let my boyfriend give me anal sex?

View related questions: anal sex

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (25 April 2010):

SirenaBlusera agony auntDon't let him pressure you into it if you don't feel comfortable doing it.

<-- Rate this answer

A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

Why does this myth of anal leakage continue? Tears are possible, but in the last 20 years I can count 2 or 3 times that this has happened such that there was any discomfort later (minor discomfort, not anything major). My wife has not had any leakage issues, and she enjoys anal- which she in fact initiated originally.

The choice is yours, and there's plenty of good information on the internet on how to actually do it, if you like- but you need to do it because you want it, not because he does. BTW, we have never used an enema, and I don't understand people who practice this- there are medical issues here.

Do not rush this, or give in- this is something you control 100%.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

nope. Been there, done that, it hurts. Horrifically. There are plenty of other wonderful things to experience. I just wouldnt go there.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, hijacked_dignity United States +, writes (17 April 2010):

hijacked_dignity agony auntI am always a 'nay sayer' when it comes to the topic of anal sex. Studying the anatomy and physiology of the body, there are some serious repercussions to anal. The tract is really thin, and tearing is a serious possibility. This definitely increases the exchange of any diseases that might be shared between partners. And tearing is always painful, and it effects the uses.

Also once you have 'too much' anal, things tend to not work as well. You get some leakage, and again, it just doesn't work as well for passing along wastes.

The bottom line is, your butt wasn't biologically designed to insert things. It was designed to get rid of waste. Your vagina is what's properly modified by thousands of years of evolution for sex. Not your poor butt. I think to be fair, you should allow your boyfriend to do this to you ONLY IF you can throw on a strap on and do it to him. That way you can deal with anal leakage and tears together as a true couple. lol

But yeah, I'd say no. Not every woman is a porn star.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, baddogbj China +, writes (17 April 2010):

baddogbj agony auntOnly if YOU want to. Anal is NOT something that "everyone does". Because of the internet young guys now have grown up watching far more hard core porn than my generation every did and because Anal is just part of the formula for hard core porn so it seems that most young guys think that it is part of the standard package. I have 6 regular lovers and only 1 of them likes anal, for the others its off the agenda.

Rather than just saying "no" why not think of something else a bit kinky and different that you would enjoy and divert his attention to that.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Anal sex - to do or not to do."

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312668000042322!