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writes: A few years back I was with this woman. Let's call her S.Well I fell in love. We broke up and soon after she was with another man. After a long time of being alone I found another woman that I have had a lot of fun with in the last months. S breaks up with the man and calls me, upset. Does she want me back? Should I risk breaking up with the one I am with for real love?What do I do?
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reader, lillybet +, writes (30 June 2006):
 Hi,the lady you fell in love with all those years back split up with you and moved on pretty quickly. It is highly probable she has found herself alone and has got thinking about how much you cared for her so she has contacted you as she has reminised about the relationship you both once had. Believe me if she got back with you she would probably be on the rebound at this point in time.You need to seriously think about who you are with now and really think how much she means to you. If you love her and you are compatible is she worth losing for this other lady who may be seeking you for comfort for the wrong reasons. If she loved you she wouldnt of stayed in this other relationship and you would of worked things out a long time ago. If she had still been with the other man but realised she still had feelings for you it would be another story but i have to say i think she is looking to you because she is single again and wants to feel wanted and she knows that you loved her all those years ago. If in a few monthes time she still wants to be in contact and seems like she wants to give it another shot then that is when you really need to decide where your feelings really do lie and which woman you really want to be with.I know you think she is the one for you and maybe she is ,if she really believes you are the one for her also she will still be around in the future.Its easy to say stick with who you are with now but you do need to decide if you love her enough to stay with her long term anyhow and if not If you are also single then you will if you and your ex both want to in the future be able to date without guilt and if it doesnt work out you can draw a line in the sand and you will then hopefully move on and find someone you do love and want to be with long term. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2006): Break ups are always hard especially when you're in love. If your relationship with S ended 3 years ago, and you have had the time to get over her as well as find a suitable replacement why make a change. You need to ask yourself one thing; why did you break up? If you're willing to accept the fact that she has already left you once, and may do it again maybe it's worth a shot...if you still love her. Be careful. It sounds like she may be rebounding, or just can't be alone. Either way I think she needs some alone time to figure herself out. Don't forget about the woman you're with now either. She may be a new love in diguise... Good luck.
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