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writes: Hi ,I have been going out with my girlfriend for over a year now, but in the last couple of weeks things have become very shaky. Up to now we have hardly had a row or argument and if we did it only lasted a couple of hours or so.Before we started going out she was in a relationship for 6 years and was treated very badly by her now ex. He constantly cheated on her and basically treated her abysmally. I met her a couple of months after the breakup, and I stressed to her at the time that I didn’t want to start something with her if I was a rebound guy. She swore I wasn’t and for the past year we have had a fantastic time, and she said I was the perfect guy for her.Over the last month or so we havnt seen each other for a variety of reasons, it wasn’t intentional to miss each other it was just the way things worked out though we do talk on the phone all the time.A couple of weeks ago then she said that she didn’t know what her feelings were for me anymore, and that she wasn’t sure if we had a future together, she said she was down about work and stuff and she didn’t see a future in anything.We are due to head on holiday in a few days, she says she knows we will get on really well but if she starts to feel the same way when we gat back then we should end.She has said to her friend that she knows we get on really well, and that she would regret it if we broke up.Am I being messed around, should I give her an ultimatum, Im afraid if I do what her response will be. I just didn’t see this coming. A few times during the year she got the wobbles bout wondering if I was the right guy and that she didn’t want ro waste another few years with a guy for it not to work out but she was always fine after a while.What do you think, am I wasting my time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): She is just feeling insecure. This is the time you should stay at her side and give her all the securities she needs.p/s: This mysterious results will only be achieved if you truely love her and understand her well. Otherwise, you will just cause more insecuries, upset her and even upset yourself and you will know this is the time it ends.Good luck :)
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