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writes:I've divorced my husband. He is a selfish person and his stinginess has bothered me for years. He never wanted to spend money even if needed. Finally I've decided to end it after 20 years together. While I was going through my divorce I've met this man 16 years older than me. He is very helpful and supportive throughout my divorce. He's got his own house and a good income job. Problem is he is the same type as my husband money is not for spending. But I was going through my divorce and desperately need someone there for me. My divorce is over now. I've got my house and a job that can support myself. We've been together two years now. Im not happy with a man put money over love. And I do worry I will not find love again. Should I go or stay. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): I think after years with a man who made you unhappy, it would not be a good idea to be within another man with the same issue. I'm guessing it is a familiar issue.
You won't be alone. My dad found love again when he was 61 years old! He was widowed and thought he could never love again. But he's been happily married for 10 years now.
Don't just be with someone because you're lonely. Take some classes or join a social networking meetup club in your area. Make friends, have fun, go out and do things you enjoy! I bet you'll find soemone. :)
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 No, it is never too late!
You are settling for less with your current companion. Do not stay with him because you are worried about being alone.
Go claim your own life and find a way to be happy and full with just yourself for awhile. It is time to fall in love with YOURSELF first!
When you feel grounded and independant, you can start venuring out to social groups, dating sites, and enjoy being PICKY about available men who would be more appropriate for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 October 2011):
 you are never too old to find love.
IF you are unhappy and you've talked to him about it then you should go.
IF you have not talked to him about it, then that would be your first step. IF you say you can't talk to him about it then you don't have the type of relationship that's intimate enough to be worth stressing over and you should get on with your life.
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reader, PR_Scorpio +, writes (10 October 2011):
Fear of being alone for the rest of your life should never be a reason to stay with someone, especially when you're not happy. I much rather be by myself and happy, then unhappy and miserable in a relationship. Age is not a factor when it comes to love. The same way this man came into your life when you needed some support, is the same way another man (the right man) can come into your life. But you'll never meet him until you end this relationship that doesn't make you happy. You were married for 20 years and that's a long time. Take some time out to discover yourself again. Enjoy being single, having to answer to nobody and coming and going as you please. Go out with your girlfriends, take vacations, get a hobby, do things YOU enjoy doing. You might even meet someone that shares your same hobbies, passions and who won't mind splurging on you. Life is too short to spend time with someone you're not happy with it. Good luck!
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