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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am not sure if I am the bad guy or it is just her manipulating me.She has bad past experiences. Knowing that, I always assure her and do things her way. Is it wrong that I fulfill her need before mine?Sometimes, she is nice to me and sometimes she isn't. She likes to fight a lot using weird reason. She works at day time and me night time.Most of the day time, I am sleeping. One day I woke up to give her a call. I feel that will be a good surprise when I never call her that hour. She ended asking why am still awake? Accusing me phoning other girl or having other by my side.There are a lot similar things. When I called, she said she miss me but she rarely call me. The last time she called is 2 weeks ago. Calling her is hard. She always miss my call and never call back. So, I don't see the miss. What really hurts me is she said I am too good that she thinks I acted out. Whatever I do or say, she will think from the bad way and start putting words into my mouth.In short, she is nice for few days and all of sudden will start a fight. It happened once that we talked awhile on phone and she mad at no reason. In a fight, she will say things like azz hol, fxxxer and some others abusive verbal language. That time, I just admit whatever she said about me. She also said talking to me is boring.I need your advices. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, buddhamax +, writes (14 April 2010):
ok friend heres the deal, from what i see this girl is doing more bad then good so far, but you are still with her that means she has somthin going for her. soo their a couple of things you can choose to do, go through with your plans emotionally or logically, emotionally you prolly fell for her and the fact that you are even thinking about breaking up with her is hurting you.(if want the relationship to work u have to get rid of all feelings of breaking up wit her or it will rip your relationship from the inside) logically she is to judgemental and non considering to you (those wiser than me say never think about it logically but i disagre) so if logically if you want it to work you need to change little things about what she dislikes in you and try to make it better, remember that their is always another girl and ask your self if you want to spend the rest of your life with this girl. Good luck friend.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 September 2008):
 She is giving you mixed signals. There is this thing called borderline personality disorder that some people experience after years of abuse, where they create this "push pull" effect with people. She pulls you close, but then she pushes you away. Let her go. Give her some time to grow. She needs to learn how to trust people again.
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