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writes:just a minor issue really.. just want to know if im right or wrong... just leant my boyfriend £1000 towards a deposit on a new flat for him.. dont want to move in with him and have no probs with him paying me back at all.. just when I txt him to tell him i'd transferred the money, he rang me up and started winding me up that he was gona use the money to go out with his friends, said he was going to order a new lap, and turned around and said to his friend that he was on the phone to his 'bank' when he was talking to me!! Now he does normally have this mean/twisted sense of humour, and he's always trying to be funny. I do know he's joking, but I obviously responded and said why couldnt he have just have said thank-you for a change and shown some gratitude instead of messing about.. and he said he was only joking about and I should know he's thankful, and that by trying to make him say thank you was just me acting like I'd got one over on him!!! and then, he acted like I was being out of order for thinking him winding me up was being ungrateful.. I just wanted a thanx..
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reader, person12345  +, writes (14 December 2012):
 I agree that he probably feels like his ego is bruised needing to borrow money and he tried to cover it up.
I also agree you should make very certain you get this money back and get dates on payments from him, he doesn't sound very mature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is a huge amount, no contract, but I really do know he'll pay it back.. Think ur right that he's covering up his embarassment with trying to be funny.. Just wanted him to acknowledge that it was a huge favour...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI trust him to pay back the money, thats not the issue... Its just his sense of humour.. Thought he was a bit mean for winding me up instead of saying thanx
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 December 2012):
 you just gave him this large sum?
no note?
no contract to repay?
I hope you are prepared to kiss this money goodbye.
He needed to say thank you and be overly grateful and say "I will start to repay you on XX/xx/xx. I could never be an adult without your help."
He is probably joking about because he's very uncomfortable having to take help from you and this is how he covers his embarrassment.
I hope he repays you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 December 2012):
 I suggest you be intensely suspicious of a guy who would borrow money from you (a tidy sum, at that!).... under the premise of it being necessary for a specific important thing.... then, learning that he is planning to squander it on himself, on OTHER "things", which was NOT in your motivation for helping him.....
AND, the bloke DOESN'T EVEN THANK YOU FOR THE LOAN????
If you are prepared to lose this money.... "...have no probs with him paying me back at all..." then, perhaps, this incident is simply a pricey life-lesson. IN any event, I'd recommend that you drop this guy...
Good luck.....
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 December 2012):
 Maybe this guy has a sense of humor like mine, only he got too far. If you're sure he's paying back, then just tell him he overstepped.
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