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Am I reading too much into the vibes I get from her?

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Question - (6 December 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 December 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi Dear Cupid readers.

I've got a problem! Hence why I'm here!!

I've got this huge attraction to another woman... I'd even go so far as to say I'm in love with her. I want to tell her because this is killing me. Problem is, I don't know how she feels about me...

We're great mates, and sometimes I get "vibes" from her... Maybe I'm reading too much into it. I don't know if she is a lesbian or not, she's never said, BUT she hasn't had a boyfriend in years. She actually lives a quiet, isolated kind of life. I don't want to risk a friendship, but I need to know. Is there any ways in which I could help myself get some answers??

Please help guys,

Thank You.

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A female reader, petina1 United Kingdom +, writes (7 December 2008):

petina1 agony auntDoes she know that you are a lesbian? If so you couldl maybe drop a gentle hint like saying 'If you were a lesbian we would make a great partnership?',, Like make a joke out of it and see what she replies. Maybe you could get a hint from this. Some women can be frightened off if another woman is making advances and it can change a friendship. Good luck. hope this helps.

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A male reader, Jon1230 United Kingdom +, writes (7 December 2008):

Jon1230 agony auntHey mate,

I would suggest that you should meet up and explain to her how you feel,its really the only way you are going to know if she really feels the same for you.

Just be prepared for a setback as you really wont know how she feels until you explain to her your own feelings.

I sometimes find myself reading into things because its what i want to believe so take it steady and be prepared mentally if she does say no.

Good luck and go for it!!

Jon

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A female reader, sparkleworks Australia +, writes (7 December 2008):

sparkleworks agony auntThe problem here is that women can tend to be more affectionate with other women without there being any romantic intention. My best friend and I are both female and at times we can get very affectionate.. cuddling, kisses on the cheek, etc. Since you're attracted to her you may be mistaking her platonic affection for these 'vibes', so unfortunately there's no way to actually know how she feels without asking her straight out. You may be scared of scaring her off, but if you two are great friends, she should be understanding, and it may even bring you closer together. If keeping this inside is making things hard for you, you have to think about yourself and get some closure.

Good luck :)

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