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Am I just being paranoid that he will use me for sex due to the way I have been treated in the past?

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Question - (9 February 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *pendy writes:

ive been getting to know this guy.. he calls me a lot.. and he actually does call me when he says he will:)

the thing is he keeps asking me if i like him..i like talking to him.,,hes good looking, sweet..he seems like a gentleman..

but i don't know if i like him that way.. am guna have to get to know him much more before i start all those feelings for him..cos i have such bad luck with guys.. they all just seem to wanna get in my knickers...

ive had 7 guys come my way within a year and half.. and they all wanted sex.. and off course i said no..cos i want sex in a relationship not just sex... and they've all disappeared..

anyways this guy says he wants to love me..treat me like a princess etc:

but when he tells me those things i dont really think about it..like yeah yeah whatever...

is it normal to feel like this?? is like it think hes just saying that to get into my pants??

am been paranoid:(

thnx,...xx

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A male reader, Flyguymyeye United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2010):

The proof is in the pudding, as youvsyggest it could all be words to get in your pants. I know I've played the nice guy card for that purpose.

I would advise you to give it a few months with no sex, if he is still around after that it indicates he may be genuine.

Good luck!

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2010):

It's normal to feel like this if you've been hurt. In fairness, perhaps it's good that you do. That way, you will spend more time getting to know him first. He sounds like a good guy, but you need to get to know him more. Spend time talking and getting to know him, and as he proves he is trustworthy, you'll know he doesn't just want you for sex.

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