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writes: Hi, i really need some help. I'm 21, been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 and a half years. He's a natural flirt which is hard but i deal with. I may be looking for things here but i need an outsiders point of view. Last year he went to magaluf with the boys, he came back and everyhting was fine. Little did he know my best friend was working in a bar over there and she told me she saw him kissing some1 else. I didnt confront him however. I told myself she was lying. Turns out, his friend tells me its true and he's also cheated on me a few times. I confronted my boyfriend but all he admitted to was kissing someone, although his story was pathcy. Now, he's got another mobile phone, which he keeps in his car, and i found condoms which we havent used in three years, he says they had been there from when we used to use them. Now after believeing all this, he's now got Genital Herpes. He says its been from some1 before me and he's only now having an outbreak, but i read an outbreak occurs within 2 to 3 weeks after exposure to the virus..........He went to spain 2 weeks ago with his friend. Am i being gullable? or could i be reading too much into this becasue i'm so insecure. Please help, thanks for reading this far x
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 I have been in the same boat as you! I wanted to believe that my guy wasn't cheating on me but all the signs pointed in that direction...There were many women calling the house, too! My advice to you is RUN!!! This guy is nothing but a cheat. I feel sorry for his next victum!!! You deserve much more than that! Leave and don't look back! I wish for you all the luck in the world!!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (30 June 2006):
 Is is totally abusing the trust that you give him. Not only that hes also putting your health at risk, by having unprotected sex, its all very well having the condoms but if you aint gonna use them whats the point!! Seems being faithful means nothing to him, and you have let him get away with it before so he thinks he can carry on doing it. Whilst herpes can remain in the body for life once contracted and you can have sudden flare ups, i would think that this, in this case is a recent thing. Now if hes got herpes what else has he got!! Yes hun I do think you are being gullible, you know he has already cheated on you, you are just afraid to admit it to yourself. If he had genital herpes from a prior relationship to you, why is it after all this time he never mentioned it to you, as any caring sort would, as at anytime he gets a break out you would need to be protected to prevent you from catching it! But then all of a sudden after being away for 2 weeks without you hes got a sudden outbreak.. funny that!! Honey you gotta look after number one in this world, its clear he has no regard for your feelings let alone your health, do yourself a favour and get out. Dont what ever you do have sex with him wihtout a condom, as by the sound of it you could be getting alot more than you bargained for. Hes been lying to you all this time and abusing your trust, hes not worth it hun, break free now before its too late. he really cant be trusted and you are worth so much more than that. I would strongly recommend that you go get yourself tested for some sti's and Std's just to make sure your okay, you dont know what he may have passed onto you.
Time is a great healer, look after yourself no one else will.
Take care x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): Dear... sorry but YES, he IS CHEATING on you. You need to get out of this relationship before he does more harm to your health or self esteem. Please get the courage to kick him in the butt and OUT. Sorry darlin.
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reader, amelia +, writes (30 June 2006):
He IS cheating on you. No you are not being gullible he's caught this from someone recently - I would bin him now - that'll send him into shock - you deserve better babes - good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): It sounds like he's making a habit of cheating on you, and I would suspect that the infection could very well be from recent encounters he's had.
In my opinion its one thing if a man cheats, but makes that mistake only once and ADMITS to it... it's entirely another when he wont even admit to it and continues it. You need to go find someone who wants to be faithful to you or at least honest about what they want, and leave him to his own devices or AT LEAST start using condoms again before you end up with something worse than herpes.
Good luck!
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