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Am I just another boy toy to her?

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Question - (20 August 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 August 2011)
A male New Zealand age 26-29, anonymous writes:

So there is this girl who i've been friends with for about a year or so. We've been good friends but i never considered anything more happening. She is really attractive but i never thought she would want to be with me and i also thought she was lesbian so i convinced myself nothing would happen and got on with my life. She got really close with this guy, but she says she prefers my company and nothing happens between them, all the time she tells me she loves me so much and things along those lines, i assumed just as friends because i though she liked women, a week ago she told me she was straight. So ive just been acting normally about it, but she is getting closer to me, still tells me she loves me and hugs and kisses me (on the cheek) a lot. She puts my arms around her and the other day we walked home together hugging most of the way and she tried to hold my hand for part of it. Now would be the time to mention, she is a flirt, as mentioned she got close to a guy, nothing happened and nothing would but she had done it before. She gives me more of this attention than the others and i think im starting to like her.

She compliments me all the time about everything..

I just want to know if you guys think she is actually into me, or if im just going to be another 'boy toy' haha...

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A male reader, Kyle007 United States +, writes (21 August 2011):

Here is the line that concerns me:

"She gives me more of this attention than the others and I think I'm starting to like her. "

OK, so even though you are her "favorite" there still are "others".

You need to call her on her flirtations and if one thing leads to another and it gets serious, then you must insist that you are now a couple and the flirting with others has to stop. And I think that's what you really want.

Now I was flirted with a LOT by a friend of mine and one day I confessed how utterly attracted to her I was and she said "no go". So the next time I was walking around with her and she put her arm around me I removed it. I don't let people mess with my mind like that.

I hope you have better luck than I did, but if it runs the same course as what happened to me, do your sanity a favor and do what I did.

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