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Am I just afraid of being a single Mom again?

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Question - (26 December 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 January 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i am trying to decide whether or not to leave my boyfriend, the problem is ,is that sometimes he can be a real jerk to my daughter and i can't stand it anymore. we get into fights because i stick up for her and he gets mad so i don't know what to do. i think the only reason i am still in this relationship is because i am afraid of being a single mom again.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009):

I am afriad of being a single parent as well. I'm pregnant and my boyfriend has become verbally abusive. I want to try to stick it out for my unborn child, but maybe I'm making a mistake.

It only makes sense that if he is disrespecting me then he will also mistreat our child.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (26 December 2008):

SirenaBlusera agony auntI have a song that might help you, because it seems to reflect your situation. I interpreted the lyrics to be a song about a guy who is in a loveless relationship and knows it but keeps denying it out of fear of upheaval, out of fear of being adrift. I think you would relate to it, and I believe in the song, sometimes it's hard to leave but it's the best thing.

Lyle Lovett, It Ought to Be Easier Lyrics

Artist: Lovett Lyle

Song: It Ought to Be Easier

Album: The Road to Ensenada Lyle Lovett Sheet Music

Lyle Lovett CDs

Send “It Ought to Be Easier” Ringtone to Cell Phone

Tell your mama I love her

Tell your daddy I tried

Tell them I wish that I could explain

The way that I'm feeling

See the sun comes up on the pavement

The pavement it starts to sweat

The steam rises up from the water

And the hotter it is you know the harder it gets

And it ought to be easier

When you turn your lights down low

And it ought to be easier

To leave when you know that you have to go

I know you don't believe me

And I know you don't understand

But honey the way that you treat me

I can't even tell who I am

And you tell me I'm the one you're not to blame

And you tell me I make you feel the same way

And we talk in circles but we never say

It's just out of weakness that both of us stay

And it ought to be easier

When you turn your lights down low

And it ought to be easier

To leave when you know that you have to go

I look at you when you're sleeping

And I think about how it could be

If you would wake up and open your arms

And hold me

But you look at me when you wake up

With eyes that are angry and mean

And I turn away and walk into the kitchen

And I pray for the strength to leave

Because it ought to be easier

When you turn your lights down low

And it ought to be easier

To leave when you know that you have to go

To leave when you know that you have to go

So tell your mama I love her

I hope she knows that I tried

Tell her I wish that I could explain

The way that I'm feeling

See the suns comes up on the pavement

The pavement it starts to sweat

The steam rises up from the water

And the hotter it is you know the harder it gets

The hotter it is you know the harder it gets

The hotter it is you know the harder it gets

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A female reader, confusedgf1973 United States +, writes (26 December 2008):

I have been through that before and i am a single mom. I tell you what, it is better to be a single mom than to have someone not respect your kid. You kid comes first. Then when you least expect it, you will find someone who adores kids and will not treat her that way.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (26 December 2008):

SirenaBlusera agony auntThat's no reason to be in a relationship. It sucks to be single because we all want, and need, someone to share our lives with. You don't say what he does to your daughter, but if he's mistreating your daughter and making your life a living hell, it defeats the purpose.

Little children deserve to grow up with love, and your daughter doesn't deserve this kind of environment. Like I said, it sucks to be single, but there are much better guys out there. I know that it takes courage to walk away from any relationship, but one day you might meet someone decent, and look back, and say, "Oh man, I can't believe that I almost settled for a creep."

Be strong, and leave him. This relationship doesn't sound like it's worth the misery it's caused you.

Good luck. :)

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A female reader, hibiscus Canada +, writes (26 December 2008):

Hi,

I am glad that you stand up for your daughter! She will thank you for it in the long run. Take it from someone who knows (my mom never stood up for me, I had to stand up for myself). He is not worth it. There is nothing wrong with being a single mom and there are so many guys out there! *smile*.

Please do what is best for you and your daughter and find someone who will love and respect both you and your daughter

Best wishes

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