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female
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16-17,
anonymous
writes:Several weeks ago, a mutual friend of mine and my boyfriend's came up to me before lunch, hugged me, told me he loved me and wanted to kiss me, and walked away. He did say he was kidding and walked away, but before you go ahead and say "yes, he was probably kidding", please let me explain. I have known him for a while, and I know when he is kidding or if he really means something, and this was one of those times when he was being completely serious bu pretending to be kidding. For a while now he has been giving off signals that he's interested in me. However, I have no feelings for him whatsoever, and also have a boyfriend whom I love very much. This has been bothering me for some time, and today I finally decided to tell my boyfriend (who, as I said, is also friends with this guy). We were texting when I told him, and at first he said "there's different kinds of love", but later as I explained to him that my friend had also said he wanted to kiss me and sounded like he was serious, but boyfriend texted me an angry face. I told him I'm sorry if he was upset but I had to get it off my chest. He responded by saying he wasn't upset, and who wouldn't want to kiss and love me. My boyfriend has told me he's a jealous person, so his response baffled me. I would've been upset if he had told me that some girl said that to him. I'm not trying to sound like I wanted him to be jealous and lash out, it's just that this isn't his usual behavior and I feel upset that he had reacted that way, because I always thought he would be there to protect me if other guys came after me. And I don't think anyone is using his phone, because the speech patterns are exactly like his, and he's also currently in a car trip alone with his parents, who would never say anything like that (they're super strict). Am I wrong to feel upset by this?
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 You're welcome. I hope you feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :)
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reader, quiet-echo + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
I think you're over reacting. Your boyfriend becomes jealous when HE perceives a threat and this person clearly isn't one to him.
You weren't in any danger so there was nothing to protect you from.
As for the friend...who knows. Nothing to worry about there either though. You're not interested in him. You have your boyfriend.
Life is short. This isn't something I'd fret over.
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reader, Lalala123lalala  +, writes (3 November 2009):
yeah stop jus thinkin about yourself. you said u dont want him to be jealous, but u clearly do! its probs hard for him cos its his friend too.
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