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reader, barry blue  +, writes (23 August 2011):
It seems your imagination does have tendencies to get carried away.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (6 August 2011):
 i know this has made you feel like crap BUT its a life lesson which you will benefit from, so its not all bad
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reader, betty blue +, writes (6 August 2011):
betty blue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for reply. Knowing that someone else has been there too really helps. I guess I need to work on my self esteem now and make friends with a guy first and not get mixed up with lust and genuine love .x x
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (5 August 2011):
exactly! i am in the same age group as you and i myself got duped like similarly to this only a few months ago. and it leaves you feeling like 'i should have known better' - i am also not a fool and i have been around long enough to know how what its all about, but the older and wiser we get, also the older and wiser the men get and some of them are DAMNED clever at what they do! so don't feel bad ok? next time don't let a man rush you into bed. a red flag is when you feel 'swept off your feet' by them - this means they have caught you up in a whirlwind and you have lost some the sense you had coz they've got you all a flutter with the romance, the promises, and now the science bit - your oxytocin (love/attachment hormone) coursing through your body and making you go daft!
you are not the first one that has fallen victim to this and you won't be the last so be KIND to yourself, put see this as a wake up call to address your own behaviour. next time - slow and steady! that's what i'm gonna do
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reader, betty blue +, writes (5 August 2011):
betty blue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again for replies. Very interesting to get a different perspective. I don't consider myself naive and think I'm a good judge of character so was really hurt and thought we would at least stay friends but he has completely cut off . Well maybe some people just have no morals and I need to not get blinded by attraction and take things a lot slower in future. X
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (4 August 2011):
some unscrupulous men will act and say anything to get a woman into bed. he probably enjoyed the closeness and cuddles afterwards as much as you did, but the fact that he has now done a runner speaks for itself doesn't it?
next time, take things a bit slower and only sleep with a guy when you are as sure as you possibly can be that the closeness is there, genuine from both sides and that you can trust that he means what he says.
there is no magic formula for this apart from 'time will tell' - if a bloke doesn't want to wait, send him on his way, unless casual sex and flings are what you are looking for
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reader, betty blue +, writes (4 August 2011):
betty blue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for replies. I undersood both .I did text him but got no reply. I think it was just a one off and need to move on.x
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reader, betty blue +, writes (4 August 2011):
betty blue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for replies. I undersood both .I did text him but got no reply. I think it was just a one off and need to move on.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): You did have a closeness but it was very much 'in the moment' and fleeting. Don't contact him. I think you know that it's not going to develop further. Try and put it behind you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): Have you contacted him? There's many reasons why this might have happened. Either:
- he just wanted sex
- he liked you but something about the sex wasn't the way he wanted and he's no longer interested
- he thinks that all you wanted was sex
- he thought he wanted you but changed his mind
All you can do is drop him a text and how he responds (or doesn't) may explain something
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