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Am I getting the soft goodbye?

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Question - (6 October 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 October 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I met a divorced guy who has joint custody of children of 12 and 13 and a tight work schedule. He told me last night he's not sure of his feelings and because of the stress between us in the last two weeks feels different. We wont be able to see each other for a week due to his work. He didn't want me to take my things or hand his key back today. I'm worried he's jumping ship but wants to let me down gently as when a guy says this it seems to mean that.

Should I just take my things and leave him to it and wait a week. I feel sad but today these words have made me feel unsettled.I am not going to contact him first or show signs of my upset.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (6 October 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntMy guess is that he is telling the truth. I don't think it is you personally I just think his life is hectic at the moment and he is putting his work and children first. I can understand why you are upset, the best thing you can do is leave the ball in his court.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2016):

The relationship is only 3 months old and in doubt. Walk away, at least its not a 3 year relationship that you have invested into.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2016):

Yes, if you do all driving thats already a terrible sign =(. This is all very one sided from your part. Please let him go and continue to date other people. In the first few months of dating, usually the men put in more effort in terms of driving and setting up dates but emotional interest should be about the same. But I get the feeling here you want more and hes too busy to even guess his feelings for you.

Move on sweetie. There are plenty of fish in the sea

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2016):

Just thought I should add (OP) we have been seeing each other three months now and its been hard cause he lives an hour away. I do most of the visiting as I haven't rightly met the children yet.

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