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writes:Dear cupid,I'm 33, boyfriend is 30 and I have been in a long distance relationship for the last 6 months. We spend the weekends together. The travel has become quite difficult and we would like to move the relationship forward and test we work well living together. We are looking to move in together.We both own our own homes. I have been in my place for a long time and a bit bored of my city and opportunities it offers are limited. He has asked me to move in with him as he is happy with his job, house and location. He is better paid than I am and in a nicer area.I can afford to keep my flat empty so if it didn't work out I could move back. I'm wondering if I'm doing the right thing moving into his place? He hasn't lived with a girlfriend before and is used to his own space. We would be looking to find a place that is our neutral home so long as it works out.
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reader, devont +, writes (30 September 2015):
 It all sounds good to me! You would move in together at one stage or another in the relationship, and it sounds like you've thought this through. The only risk is finding another job.
Personally, I think 6 months is too soon to move in together, but every relationship moves at different paces and as it is long distance, maybe it makes sense to move in now.
I believe that you don't truly know someone until you live together and moving in will definitely test your relationship. Either you'll slot together nicely or you won't. There's only one way to find out...
All the best.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (30 September 2015):
 "Living together".... without being married... is always a roll of the dice... Even more so, when it's a step from LDR.... AND, when it fails, it's usually the woman who "pays" the greater price....
YOU need to assure that YOUR interests (read: your equity) is protected.... Imagine what you will do if it doesn't "work out."
I wouldn't do it....
Good luck...
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