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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Am I being ridiculous or do I really have a reason to re-think my relationship with my boyfriend? He is only 2 years older than me. But I have begun to find him a bit of a bore. I know it sounds terrible, but he is always asking where I am, what I am doing, which would be nice but he does it every day and when I finally log onto MSN he asks me the same questions all over again. I know he doesn’t have many friends, in a way he is a bit of a loner. He has always been bullied and picked on, and at first I found myself being protective of him. But now it is wearing off. I invited him on holiday with me, to celebrate my birthday but he said he couldn’t because of his parents. He always uses his parents as an excuse, because we met online and he says they don’t like him to meet people online. But they don’t need to know he met me online, do they? He could have met me anywhere.I don’t encourage lying to parents, but its been two years and they still don’t know I exist. I just don’t see where the relationship can go if we cannot meet parents. He wouldn’t even meet mine but then I had to trick him into meeting my mum. But even then he was diffident and quiet. So I have never tried it again.So since then we have been in a sort of limbo and its getting me down, and the only way I can see out of it, is to dump him. We were friends before we got together, so could we be friends again, that is the way I am beginning to see it now. He has never said he loves me and is never affectionate, and I miss those things from a boyfriend. I just think I deserve better.Any advice would be much appreciated.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): if you are looking for a friend, then you have the right guy. if you are looking for a boyfriend, one that there is actually a future with...then you have the wrong guy. After two years, his parents should know about you. you have a brother/sister relationship, comfortable and familiar, but not romantic in the least. this is not the one honey, by now you would know.
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