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30-35,
*ebeccaa
writes:Hi everyone, need some opinions on wether I am being unreasonable in this situation or not. Ok so I live at home with my mum step dad and younger sister, I go to my dads who lives at the other side of town once to twice a week. There is my dad step mum and another younger sister. They are both my half sisters and i love them very much. So at home my step dad is very physically and emotionally abusive to me my mum and sister, I won go into detail, but we are in the process of moving house do we no longer have to put up with my stepdads abusive horrific behaviour. Anyway when my mum is at work I don't usually like to be in the house because I am scared of my stepdad and can only stay In my room. Last nigt I was at my dads, an today I was going to go to my boyfriends which is only a couple of streets away. Anyway this morning I woke up expecting to go to my boyfriends, when he said he was poorly, I said well I will walk to yours then and he said no because you'll have to walk home later on your own( he normally walks me home because it's dark) I was a bit miffed that i couldn't go to his not only because I want to be out the house but because I enjoy my boyfriend company. Anyway there are other solutions, I texted my friends asking what they were doing told them the suituation and they invited me to there's, when I told my boyfriend about this he got mad mainly incase there would be any boys there. Anyway there isn't. He then brought up a couple of weeks ago when I was seriously ill in bed I didn't move from my bed for days and my mum thought I was going to end up in hospital. He said when you was I'll I didn't go out I stayed in and well you don't have a stepdad that bullys you. Anyway he let it go, and then he said he was going to town with his mum, and I thought hang on, of your well enough to spend all the day in town surely your well enough to walk for about 10 minutes at the most to take me home. Can I please have opinions on this suituation am I being unreasonable?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (11 June 2012):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou I'm just sick of being tret like something on the bottom of his shoe
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 My advice here is that you should keep your friends. They are more important than even years of a relationship because true friends will be there even if you treat them like crap over this boy and then things go bad. I've been there on that one years ago.
It doesn't sound like the realtionship is working out all to well and don't really know why that is other then the fact that he seems to have a problem with you spending time with other people whether they be guys or girls.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (10 June 2012):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou i will also update this question, I slept at my friends house yesterday, and my boyfriend came to meet me on my way home, anyway to get his own back on me for going out with my friends, he decided to make arrangements to go out with his friend today, which is fine however we had already made plans to go to my dads. Sober had an argument about this, I said unlike you I don't mind you being with your friends but what I do mind is the fact that you ruined my plans yet again (yea he's done it more than once) to go out with your friends, yesterday I was only with my friends because I wanted to be out the house and you was I'll. What's wrong with that. So I said if you can cancel plans with me all the time and not with your friends it's over he replied with good, and I said well I couldn't have ment that much to you of its good and then I walked home on my own. I will also mention the fact he rang me up yesterday because I was with my friends and laughing he got all mad as if I'd committed a crime and started calling me lots of names, and kept putting the phone down on me. He had the mardys on with me because I wouldn't see him but I can't really ditch my friends and go to his when he said he was poorly and couldnt see me bit as soon as I was worh my friends he expected me to drop them and go to his and i wouldn't.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (10 June 2012):
Since when does your bf or gf being sick mean that the other one isn't allowed to go out. That means that you should have no issue when you say you are going out with your friends then. You are not being unreasonable at all. Why is it that he is all concerned if there are other guys hanging out in a group. There is nothing wrong with you having guy friends. It's not like this is something to end a relationship but it just doesn't sit right with me that he would behave like that.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I hope everything works out for the three of you.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (9 June 2012):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 No you are not being unreasonable. He is. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you cannot hang out with a friend at there house sometimes as well. He needs to be able to trust you in order for this relationship to work and it is obvious he doesn't if he is annoyed because you are with friends in case there are any guys there, so what if there was? He should trust you. He sounds paranoid and immature, I honestly do not see this relationship working.
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