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*Lindy87
writes:I just started a relationship with my best friend. It was kind of sudden, and before we started dating him and I made plans to see Cheech and Chong stand up comedy live :). well last night he spent the night and today we decided we're dating. Well he just told me that after the concert he made plans with our mutual friend Wes, from the text it looks like I'm not invited. Am I being paranoid? I feel left out anyhow, cuz before him and I dated I would totally have been invited. I feel like him and I are too good to be true. I almost feel like he is purposly not wanting to hang out with me after the comedy, but then again I'm helping him move at noon and going to be spending the day with him up until ten when he is going to hang out with our friend. I think my insecurities are eating at me. I think I'm being paranoid. Am I? or is this weird behaivor for a new relationship?
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (26 March 2010):
LLindy87 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you lexie!!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (26 March 2010):
 I used to be the exact same...reading into things stuff that didn't even make sense.
I don't think it's weird behaviour at all. Perhaps now he sees you as a GF he didn't see the need to invite you out with Wes as one of the boys. But most likely scenario is that he simply 'forgot' to invite you or felt that you didn't want to come.
So relax, don't analyze things like this...it just drives you insane. Go slow and steady. In the beginning it's really hard to keep those insecurities at bay. If it helps, talk to him about it. You don't have to make it into a huge deal but it can help if he knows how you feel. I used to get 'paranoid' and would talk to my BF about it, he was quite good at listening and assuring me.
You'll be fine.
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