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writes:Thanks for read my post, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months, he is a very good guy, he does everything to make me happy, we have strong feelings for each other, but my problem with him is his lack of planning our dates, we both have a really tight schedule, he works a lot and he is going to college at the same time, sometimes when I talk to him about this situation, he change a little bit, but then with the time, he goes to the same behavior, I am the one who has always to plan all our dates, we normally see each other 3 times a week because of our tight schedules. I know he has give up time with his friends to be with me.But still makes me sad that I am the one doing all the planing here, sometimes I text him or calling asking him like " are you coming today sweetheart?", and he normally reply yes, it is extremelly rare that he said that he can't come, that has only happen like 3 times in like 8 months of relationship, but for example today something happen that really hurted me, we saw each other last friday and when he was leaving my place I asked him "are you coming sunday?" and he say yes I am coming, but today I called him around 5pm to see when he was coming( because he normally call me around 3 to tell me he is coming around 8 and he didn't call today), he told me if we can go to some other place today because he wanted to see his friends and he wanted us to hang out with them today. For some reason I have the sensation that if I wouldn't have call him to see at what time he was going to come he wouldn't have call me to hang out with his friends, I don't know if this is me being paranoic, which is probably truth, I have a lot of trust issues, I can't even trust in my own family because they have always rejected me. So i don't know here if I am just being paranoic or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): You know what..!! I think you should STOP ANALAZYING.. every little thing that your boyfriend does.. and just ENJOY it!! Be grateful and happy with him.. and don't start nagging at him about what time he comes to see you.. their are alot of other single women who would be head over heels to have thier man spend time with them.. and also wouldn't put EXPECTATIONS.. onto their man either... Sorry but as I am single.. i see woman worry over little things.. that mean nothing at all!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): You may want to inquire about it in a nonthreatening way at a later date so he knows what your expectation are. He probably just has no idea that you're worrying about it. But, I certainly understand it - but relationships can change over tiime and perhaps in the future the situation will be reversed at some point. . . Best of luck!
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reader, penguin64  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 i know how that feels when you seem like the one doing all the work. it seems liek if you dont arrange it nothign will happen and they wont actually bother? but i think maybe its just men! lol. like my bloke works with me and because of different shifts and other stuff i havent seen him much :( and to make it worse he's hardly text me either.... and i dont think i would be seein him tomorrow if i didnt mention it! i think u really need to actually explain to him that he's not making you feel very wanted. or you could just play hard to get and see if he makes any effort. i know its hard but try your best. turn your phone off! i dont think your being paranoid. i would be the same.
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reader, Davidw123 +, writes (6 October 2008):
Don't worry about it; I'm a guy, I work and also go to college; I'm 17 years of Age.
I work Saturday & Sunday;
College Monday,Tuesday,Wednesday,Thursday,Friday.
I see my girlfriend EVERYDAY after; in the evenings.
Im sure he would of called you closer to the time; especially if its the first time hes seen his friends in a while because hes been busy with you.
Dont worry about it. honestly.
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