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Am I a loser if I live at home?

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Question - (14 December 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 December 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *lexia846 writes:

Is it okay to live with your parents, I am just graduating from grad school, in two weeks but unfortunately I still live with my parents, and they bitch about coming home late and all that bullshit. I do not have a car yet and have a part time job, but am looking now that i have my masters degree.

my main question is does this make me a loser? I am 24, no loans but no car, and still live with my parents I am female, i also just got out of a controliing relationship..all he did was wanted to change me. my question is if i start dating will i look like a loser if I say i live with my parents, and plus they allways bitch about me coming home after midnight, cause i never want to be home.. will new guys i date view me as a looser? sorry my self esteem is 0 since the last guy was like oh you need to move out get a car be independent get skinny get a better job, you shouldnt have gone to masters blah blah...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010):

...then don't date older men - what's wrong with guys around your age? A lot of them are in the same stage of life as you.

And if someone in their 30s tells you to grow up, just ask them where they were/what they were doing in their mid 20s?

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A female reader, alexia846 United States +, writes (14 December 2010):

alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

will older guys find this unaattractive i am 24 and my older bf who was thirty said i needed to grow up be independe styop waisting money and etc. i mean i just finished my masters, and i want to date older man ibut i dont want them to see me as a child? well i dont know i guess some men never appreciate anything

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010):

Not at all. Similar to you, I just graduated and moved back in with my parents (lived on campus for 4 years prior). I'm also looking for a full time stint, saving up etc.

In all honesty, I'd prefer to meet someone who still lives at home - shows me they're still young at heart like me lol i know that sounds weird, but super 'miss-independent' chicks who live in shoe-box sized condos in their early 20s aren't all that attractive. For me, I'd like to grow with someone, not have to jump ship and fit into their lifestyle.

Keep your head up!

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (14 December 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt I don't think it will matter. In the current state of economy , you are by no means the only one in this kind of situation. For a young person nowadays getting a "normal " life ( a car, a good job, her own apartment, etc. ) it's much more difficult than in the past and what was the object of

irony and jokes 10 or 20 years ago - the typical guys ( or girls ) who live in their parents' basement - has become now just another fact of life.

That does not mean you have to give up, though : look for a full time job, save as much as you can, get yourself some cheap used car,....keep doing all you can to make yourself independent. And, in the meantime, enjoy your dates .

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