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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:This is my situation. I have been outta the dating game for a very long time. My last serious relationship was 10 years ago. I've dated maybe twice since then. I have a full-time job and am always busy with that and family. I'm considered middle class, but I make an okay living. However, due to college and other things, I'm about $0k in debt, as most Americans are. Now that I've laid out the scene, here is the problem. I'm 28 years old, single and don't want to be forever. I want marriage, kids, and a home to call my own. But what makes matters worse is when i was a preteen, i made a vow to stay celibate until i was married, and yes, it is still the case. How do I go about getting back into the dating arena? I have alot to offer, but been out of it so long, I don't know where to start. I'm desperate!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): Ha! I was in the exact same boat you were. I was always looking for a relationship while trying to save sex for marraige. A funny thing happened. All the girls I dated were just looking for some no strings attached fun.
I finally gave up and decided to just go for a fling or two instead. Guess what, now I'm engaged.
If I were you, I'd stop trying so hard to find a lifetime relationship and just try to have a little fun instead. Flirt a little, if a girl doesn't show any interest, move on. Make them chase you. Go out and act like you have nothing to lose.
Here's where it starts to suck. Most girls at your age are gonna have around 15 to 20 notches in their bedposts by now. Just be prepared, becuase once you fall in love with on of them, its likely going to mess your head up big time. Thanks to the way we guys who try to wait till marraige were raised, we tend to be really insecure about girls with multiple past partners. The best advice I can give you for that is, DON'T ask about her past!
Bottom line: If you want to change your situation, stop looking for a wife and go out and try to have some fun. I garantee you'll end up hooking up with someone who's desparate to settle down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): hiya, i no thats it hard to meet people and i nice to here that a man wont them thing but u just need to relax go out and see how things goes dont be scared the worst thing you can hear off a girl is no u will find some one when you are ready it will take time but dont puss yourself you will be scared but unless you give it a go you will never no what sprise waits for you i think its great that you wont to wait to your wedding day good luck xx
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