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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:whenever we had arguments (which is very frequent and lasts for several hours), my ex would be obsessed over it for a day. He said that it wrecked his day, he couldn't concentrate, and he can only think about ending the relationship (which he finally has after much going back-and-forth). Is this normal? Because when we argue, it doesn't bother me the next day. I can work normally and don't think about it. Also - how many arguments do you think "normal" people have in a healthy relationship? he said that I argued far too much (1-2x a week). however, a lot of times that I don't think we are "arguing", he said that they are. so what do you think constitutes as an "argument"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): hey
I think that once or twice a week is too much to argue - especially if they are 'blazing' rows. There must be serious issues between two people if they have those sorts of rows on a weekly basis. However, if they are just minor disagreements then that is life!
Depends on what type of person you are and he is. If you're the kind of person that enjoys a little row to create a spark (sounds mad but loads of women and men are like this)& he hates this kind of drama, then you two would either have to compromise or part ways.
I'm still trying to figure out this one myself on how not to be such a drama queen. It's like wanting some kind of attention and your 'inner child' takes over if you think you aren't geting it.
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