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writes: Hiya everyone!I have a very embarrasing problem, I am nearly 14 and I have never had a boyfriend. It's really embarrasing for me when my friends talk about all their boyfriends.The problem wouldn't be so bad if I didn't want a boyfriend, but I would love someone to hug, and find out what snogging is really like.I think the main reason that I don't approach the lads I fancy and ask them out myself is because I am scared of rejection, and looking stupid.Another problem is that I feel guilty when boys ask me out, and I end up saying 'yes' to boys I don't want to go out with. How can I politely turn them down without embarrassing them?I need help, will boys ever be interested in me, will I ever have a boyfriend, will I ever be able to politely turn boys down? PLEASE HELP! I just want someone to hug and kiss, and just find out what having a boyfriend is like. I must be the only girl my age who hasn't been out with a lad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): I know exactly how you feel! I'm a fifteen-year-old about to finish up my sophomore year, and I've never had a boyfriend or even anyone who has asked me out. Well, there is this one boy in school who has a crush on me but I don't like him back. I do have a crush on another guy but I don't know if I'll ever have the chance to talk to him. Trust me! You are not alone when it comes to not having a boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Last year I was a disaster with boys. I was so shy and nervous around them.
So what's happened til now?
I've kissed four boys, i don't have a boyfriend because I don't want to, but I flirt like crazy and love it! Boys flirt with me everyday and tell me Im gorgeous and hot and stuff. i love it!
My friend never had a boyfriend last year and had never kissed a boy either. By now she's had two boyfriends.
I have a third friend who never had a boyfriend. She's now involved with the guy of her dreams since four months.
This is all true. Last year we where unhappy and insecure. This year we're beautiful, we have fun and we rock the boys world. Im fifteen, my friends are sixteen.
You'll get a boyfriend when your ready.
I promise!
Lots of love ¨3
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Don't worry a bit! I'm 15, well just about to be and I know perfectly how you feel beacuse I've never had a boyfriend either, and I'm pretty sure I'm about the only one in my year. Some people just get boyfriends quicker, some get them slower, you're not 'unnormal' at all it's perfectly normal. Just try and maybe ask your friends to ask their bf's if they have any mates that you lot could go on a trip oput on? That way You'd have people in common and It might work! Good luck.
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reader, Twirly  + ♥, writes (19 April 2008):
 Ahh please don't worry, it's perfectly normal to not have had a boyfriend at 14. Why not think of dating and having fun rather than looking for a serious boyfriend, you've got many many years ahead to have serious boyfriends, so enjoy being young, free and single!
Also, think of it as simply having not met the right guy for you yet, rather than thinking of it as a negative thing. If you get asked out by a boy that you don't really fancy or want to go out with, then take it as a compliment and politely and kindly turn them down.
I remember how important and excruciaing all this stuff can be at 14 but it does get easier!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): i'm 16
never had a boyfriend
never been asked out
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Well i'm 16, i've had 2 boyfriends now but neither of them even lasted a week, and to be honest, i didnt really fancy either of them. When i was your age i was in the exact same position though. Believe me, boys will come along, but dont make the same mistake as me and say yes to ones you dont really like just to have a boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): i'm 13 and the only boyfriend i've ever had was the same guy who cheeted on me with the prettiest girl in school. i try to be outgoing but it's not working i just wont the ladz to notice me i with you there. i think i'm in love now but i know it wont work out sorry i couldn't be more of help good luck. xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Hey, Dont worry chick im 14 and I NEVER kissed some one before! You aint on your own =] I tryed to kiss some one b4, but I didn't have a clue what to do. It just went wrong so we stopped!! I looked on the net for some tips, no matter how much I read stuff about it, I'm still nervous!! Ive got a boyfriend now, and we've only been together for 4 days, and I won't go see him cos I'm scared to kiss him!! Its driving him away probrably, but ya know, the right time will come sooner or later.. I'm not being forced into nothing, and you shoudn't be either!!! Dont worry! I'm ready for it, I just think the same as you tho - am I gonna be sh--? What if it goes wrong? What is he gonna think of me?! Just do what feels right when your ready is what i think =] hope this helped =]x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): trust me, having a boyfriend isnt all that great, its frustrating. i just got out of a relationship and i dumped him and he's still obsessed with me. everytime i walk by him to get to my locker he starts blushing. he told me that he wants nothing more than to see me happy even if it means with another guy. and this is going to really hurt him but i'm gonna tell him that he needs to move on and that hes a special guy, blah, blah, blah, and that any girl would be lucky to have him, blah, blah, blah. isnt that frustrating?! so listen to me when i tell you that having someone to hold your hand isnt special at all. so dont worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): No, you are not the only girl your age who has never had a boyfriend... actually I know exactly how you feel... I want the exact same thing you want... What's the difference? I'm 19 years old... yep 19 and what could be worse? I've never had a boy ask me out before... So I 'm sorry that I can't help you with your problem... I just hope that you my comment will put your mind at ease a bit... It's good not to have a boyfriend believe me, it makes you stronger, so not be in a rush. You can live... but it would be nice to have someone who cares about you and that you can depend on... And no I'm not a lone nut I have other friends who are single my age... but I too would like some addvice on how to snare a man... I need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): No you're not the only girl in the world that has never had a boyfriend, look at me!... I'm 15 years old and im in grade 10 and i have never had one. i havent held a boys hand that i wanst forced to i have never kissed or anything ... and im 15 that suks, i understand how you feel and at least you arent the oldest girl that has never had a boyfriend...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): LOL!
And you're frustrated b'cuz you're 14 and you've never had a boyfriend?!?!???
Well, I'm almost 19 and I've never been in love, I've never had a boyfriend. And that's not bcuz i'm not actracted to them, SO PLEASE you have the all TIME of your time, you'll have a million of opportunities, don't you dare to waste them like I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): believe me your not the only girl thats 14 without a b-friend. im sure the guy you like right now is secretly crushing on you. to really get a b-friend you got to talk a lot expically to the guys. if you start hanging out with the boys the guy that likes you will probably get jealous and start hanging out with you and the people you hang out with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): hi, well i think your OVER REACTING a bit! i'm 16 almost 17 and i think and the age of 14 you shouldn't be worrying about too much! I understand how you feel cause even though i have had boyfriends i would like to have one, but most of the time i think that it's better NOT to have one than be with some one i Don't like cause it's annoying! And I understand how you feel when your friends are talking about thier boyfriends infront of you when you feel like a loser. Well i have to stand infront of my friends when they are talking about them haveing sex with thier boyfriends! they also talk about there mate leaving them cause they were bord and then my friends are broken! so YOU CAN CHOOSE! would you much rather wait longer than your friends, have a much better relationship and be happy in the end? or take one of your friends place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): hey all i know how everyone feels im 18 and dont have a bf either its because they used to be really horrible to me sayin i was ugly and fat at school ive been on a diet and lost loads of weight but i still think of myself as fat and i also dont have alot of confidence in goin up to a boy/lad and talkin to them and my friends talk about their bfs all the time and im the only one left outi really want a bf but im also scared of bein rejected and hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I'm 14 and i can't approach lads - i think that answer is really shit! I mean NOW! i want one too and frankly i'm not the ugliest bitch in the world! All my friends have given head or had sex and there's me with no snogging - ur not alone in the world.
My answer to you is - if a guy asked you out grab him with both hands and do whatever you need to to get it out of your system. Your lucky if you get asked out. Don't say no. If you don't like them, learn to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): will you know what they say the best apples are on top of the tree, my sister-in-law never had a boyfriend other than by brother and she was really pretty she thought that no one like her becouse she was ugly and she really wasnt, when my brother and her got married they continude to go to school and now shes is a nurse she has a house, a cute baby and she works in a hospetal you now what she told me? that she saw girls that were with her in high school with about 5 kids already!! and that they just stayed home waiting for there husbands and she found out that she broke some hearts of some peole,
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Trust me you are not the only teenage girl in the world with out a Boy Friend. im 15 and i havent had a "real" boy friend either...i like to think of it has a time to learn from your friends mistakes with thier boyfriends and then when you have one you will know what to do and what not to do. they will flock to you when your ready. every thing always falls into place soon enough...trust yourself and the guys will follow :D good luckKat
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): you are totally not alone. i feel the same exact way that you feel.but dont be sad we still have about 15 more years to find love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): luv_bytes123
its okay yall you might not have bf now but you will eventually... dont be shy and flirt a lttle with some guys you like dont chnage for n e guy that you have crush on..just play hard to get but not alot and they will come to you!
if the guy makes oyu laugh alot then he might have a little crush on you.
i ahve boy problems too and i hate it but never ever get sad over a boy.theres plenty of fish in the sea
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): omg! i feel exactly the same way as you because i am 14 aswell and i have never had a boyfriend and i know exactly wat it feels like cuz i really want one but im too shy i can never talk 2 anyone but the problem is tht i havent got any boy mates either and no one likes me anyway i think im ugly and fat im actually on a diet its working though so im kinda ok but im going to wait for the right time for me to have a boyfriend so i think you should wait for the right time too afterall were only 14.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): dear almost 14..., dont worry i am 11 and have never had a boyfriend!!!!! i would love love love to have a boyfriend but no one ever really likes me!!! and when i do like a guy he is always like o i dont like you bye!!! i get soooooo embarressed!!! one boy i do like right now , i think likes me but hasent have the nerve to say wanna go out sooo i still have hope and you should too try and try harder but remember BE YOUR SELF!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): hiya im 14 too and i still dont have a boyfriend so u r not the only girl without a boyfriend my advice is that just wait for awhile the perfect guy will ask you out one day tats wat i believe i ave the same problem as you :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): hey you shouldnt be worried. if you are only still in 8th grade, thats at the age when guys are only interested in girls who dress to show a lot of skin, but have absolutly no brains at all. it is their only way of attracting guys, and they are probably scared youre too good for them. around sophomore year in high school, they'll be mature enough to realize that intellect counts more than a person who does nothing but kiss/have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2006): Listen, I'm seventeen in September and I've never had a boyfriend either. I've barely been hugged by a guy, so don't feel alone. And in a way I'm glad, because from what I've heard they're not all they're cracked up to be at our age. Boys mature slower than girls, so don't understand our need for things like hugging etc, saying we are clingy. Enjoy being single for the moment...hugs and kisses will soon come your way I'm sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): Listen...im 17 and have never had a boyfriend...ive never been kissed so dont complain
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reader, Blackpanda +, writes (6 January 2006):
Hey there, Come on..it's not the end of the world if you don't have a boyfriend. At 14 i was thinking exactly the same "No one will go out with me, why? why do the boys i fancy not like me? and why do the boys i think are just gross like me?" Lol!! All teenagers go through this at some point. Believe me a Boyfriend doesn't answer all your problems.
But i know where your coming from when your friends talk about the boyfriends they have had, and your not able to contribute to the convo. But your 14 not 40 you have so many years ahead of you to find a boyfriend.
Just remember to be yourself, don't turn into something your not to try and get a boyfriend. If you have to change who you are to get a boy, then it's not worth it!
Relax and enjoy life and remember be as nice a you can to any boy who asks you out and your not intrested.
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reader, Contact Carly +, writes (6 January 2006):
 dear reader
not all people click on with a boy straight away there is someone special out there for you and i'm sure hes coming soon a survey showed that most girls lie about having boyfriends to show off in front of their friends dont rush yourself into a relationship you dont want to be in and when you see a guy you like dont hold back just go an see what he has to say you never know he could like you to
good luck
carly
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (6 January 2006):
 hey, dont worry there are many girls your age who dont have boyfriends and you dont have to be afraid. i know that it is very hard for you not to have a boyfriend when all your friends do but trust me it is not the end of the world. Do not be afraid of rejection, make sure that if you are interested in a guy you boost yourself with confidence and make sure that he knows that you are confident.Do not be afraid of dumping guys either if you dont like them you have no other choice just be diplomatic, confidence and lay it to him gently, he will get over it. There will be a guy in your life soon so dont worry. Try taking up hobbies or going out so that you could meet new people. Good Luck.
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reader, Phixiate +, writes (6 January 2006):
its ok. patience is the key. guys love women. they will come looking for you when your ready.promise.
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