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writes:my bf(22)and myself(19) have been dating for 4 months he says he loves me evryday but i never sed it back(bcoz i didnt feel it) one nite i texted my ex (i was very drunk and yes i do regret it) so my bf dumped me but he took me back 5 hours later so now wer back but its not the same its weird, different and he's changed he's acting too cool and not himself.whats up wit that??why cant he be himself??i said i love him last nite(bcoz i really meant it) but he totally changed the subject.what does he want???why is he playing mind games??this is affecting my sleep and my work very badly.....help!!!!i dont know wat to do.....do i say sorry...give him time... or dump him if he keeps acting too cool bcoz i dont like it one bit!
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (20 April 2007):
 Why don't you two just sit down, talk and make the mature decision to put all this past crap, in the past. What a waste of time and the behaviors here, is horridly childish. This is something 14 year old's would do. He's been hurt by your actions and he's made up his mind to be petulant, pouty and to punish you. Tell him to-quit the silly, mindgames and immature antics, or you are walking.. Relationships are about openess, honesty, givingness and respect. Sounds like you two have to really look hard and deep within, and work at achieving a mature, caring, mutually happy relationship. The way it is now..is..it's completely unhealthy and dysfunctional. Lashing out, meaness and resentment is abounding. It really sounds like the two of you are at risk spinning your wheels here with neither of you going anywhere. It's time to talk and talk calmly, maturely and tell him exactly what you want. If he insists on keeping up with the punishment and mindgames then the pain of being in this relationship will become too great for you...Don't do that to your confidence and self-esteem...Get out, move on and go find someone else who'll treat you the way you want. The choice is yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): what do you expect? you hurt him badly. i know i'd hate it if my bf texted his ex. if drinking affects you in this way, then you shouldn't drink. even if i was out of my head i would never ever send a text to anyone else. i hate it when people blame their actions on drinking. what you must understand is that you wanted to text your ex, the drink just gave you the courage. the drink did not give you the idea. he's acting distant because he knows this and doesn't want to get hurt. he's tryin not to be as dependant on you. you better make it up to him. show him you love him and for pete's sake, don't be drinkin if your going to do stupid things like that.
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