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*ilmiissjem
writes:Im 16 Years old and mature for my age.For the past 2 years i've been in a sexual relationship with a 21 year old neighbours son.I went to school with his brother. I'm really keen to get into a relationship with him, however ,sometimes, it feels like it's all about the sex. We get on so well and have loads in common ive suggested getting into a relationship with him several times and all i seem to get is 'we will have to see'. A part of me does feel that he's using me but i'm not sure. I've fallen for him hook line and sinker. Please give me some advice.
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reader, lilmiissjem +, writes (10 July 2008):
lilmiissjem is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank You to all of you that replied.I have decided that i'm going to carry on seeing him for a while longer. I know you all are probably going to think that im such an idiot but hey lifes about mistakes!!??Thanks once againxx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 He's using you, plain and simple. He has no desire of getting into a relationship with you and the only reason he says "We'll have to see" is to keep stringing you along with false hope...While he continues to get into your pants.
I'm not even going to get into how sleeping with him at 14 was a bad decision and he could be put in prison for having sex with a minor...
I realize that you've fallen for him and it probably hurts to have people confirming your thoughts - but it would be best if you broke it off with him.
Actually : end it immediately. You're not his sex toy and continuing this relationship with him will only hurt you more in the end.
If he tries to cause any trouble, casually remind him that he can be charged for having sex with a minor. And if he continues, tell your parents or another trusted adult what's going on.
All the Best!
xo
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I hate to say it, but it IS all about the sex, and he's been using (and abusing) you for years now. It's time to put a stop to it. Tell him it's over. Don't even think about carrying it on any longer. If he raises any trouble, go to your parents or some other trusted adult and explain the entire situation.
Yes, I know you love him. But the fact is, he doesn't love you and he never did. He's been using you. Get out, now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): you were 14 and sleeping with a 19 year old? He is using you for sex. I don't know what the laws are in your country, but in the US he could be sent to prison for that behavior!
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