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writes:Is it true that once you start having sex it becomes really difficult to stop? I know my current boyfriend is the man I want to lose my virginity to (I wouldn't be his first), but we're an LDR so only get to meet up every 2-3 months. If we go through with it, will not being able to see each other very often become unbearable afterwards? I'm not much bothered about my own feelings but I fear making him suffer... somehow it seems worse since he's a guy! Thanks ever so in advance for any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cookiemonster5  +, writes (18 July 2011):
Well when I lost my viginity I just could'nt stop having sex. It gets addicting. Now i don't know if everyone is like this but it should be something to consider though
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reader, MugenTj +, writes (18 July 2011):
 What I would do is asses what kinda of man he is: faithful, patience, strong-willed, and most of all does he really care about you?
Quite honestly, it's not exactly addicting, but there is no reason to stop. A man's body always drives for sex, naturally! That's why it would take a lot to keep him around to yourself.
On the other hand, if he is anything like me, he can tolerate a whole year for the girl he loves. In the mean time, there is the option of getting off on porn.
If LDR hasn't been an issue then your being a good girlfriend should be enough. For example, a friend of mine wouldn't even go out with another girl, but when his LDF girlfriend went to a bar without letting him know, he paid a hooker for sex to release his stress (I guess he doesn't use porn). You see, not everyone is the same. Sex is intimate, if you don't know your man enough to answer this question, then do you really should reconsider.
At the same time, don't underestimate your own desire for sex yet, since you haven't done it. The girl I'm involved with right now, she thought she will be bored with sex (when we only do the rub rub), but since I took her virginity, we have done it almost everyday (no less than 4 times a week).
The point is: once you started, it will be difficult for you both, but if the relationship is meaningful, sex is the best thing that can happen. I'm a guy and I can tell that the first time is special for a girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2011): I don't think it's a good idea to have this relationship with someone who is LDR. You can't really know that much about him since it's LDR. He could have a whole string of Gf/ lovers for all you know. Wait for someone who can be a part of your life on a regular basis, in person. Once you have sex with him, for many women, you are going to feel much more of a bond and if it doesn't work out, even if he is a good guy, it will be hard on you most likely. Don't worry about him, worry about yourself.
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