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writes:Here's my story. A year ago, I met a girl that was a few years younger than me. Well I didn't really like her as a love interest then, but she was crazy in love with me. We hung out everyday and most people thought we were dating. Well that was august. Now its July and all this time she's been following me. And after some soul searching, I realized that I really do love her with all of my heart and want to be with her, but when I told her she said she got tired of waiting, and doesn't want me anymore. She did admit I am still in her heart however, so I know there's a chance I can be with her. Please someone tell me what to do. I do love this girl and I wish I had realized it sooner. I really need to show her I love her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): Put yourself in her shoes. She was in love with you for almost a year. During that year she was probably in an immense amount of pain. Imagine watching her go off with other boys, like other guys, or even just hang around her knowing you can't have her. Now, she probably feels a little taken for granted. I mean it took a whole year for you to realize you love her. And after all that pain, our hearts get tired. Right now she probably just wants a fresh relationship, free of pain and heartache.
If you really want to be with her, you are just going to have to tell her you love her, treat her like a queen, and wait. She might come back to you, she might not. She might ask you to respect her wishes and leave her alone. In that case, you'll have to do what she says. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): Wow. I completely understand. I was in love with my best friend at one point as well. Except he was always going out with the most beautiful girls and i felt very inferior. During the school year we would sit together always and he would put his arm around me and would feel my heart jump. But i was afraid though and would shrug of his arm and ajoid to much affection showing. Everyone said we were perfect for each other. Over the summer he went to visit family in Hawaii and i decided i really did love him. Unfortunately when the year started up again he no longer seemed interested. It was like he had out grown me. It broke my heart. Leo was my fist and only love. But i digress. She's scared to hope. You need to be persistent, show her that your truly in love with her. Make sure everyday she is reminded that you want her. Small things like an oragami butterfly with her name on it or single white lily, the stem tied in a bow with ribbon of her favorite color. Text her and let her know that you think of her through out the day. As things move faster, think out side the box. On the first date pack a picnic basket fill only with deserts and take a blanket to the top of a grassy hill and have a midnight picnic beneath the stars. If you really do love her, don't ever let her go
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reader, Jay_xxxxx  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 You need to start showing that you love her and make her realise how much you do, but you also need to start all over again with your relationship, make her feel like a princess by taking her out with just the two of you.
Buy her flowers and really show her how much you want to make her happy, I know men don't like showing that side of them but you really need to make her see how much you like her, otherwise you may lose her.
But be careful as there is a line, you can act all romantic but then you could seem needy and she will be more likely to not want anything to do with you.
I hope I helped a little and I hope that you get her back
Jay x x x
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (9 July 2011):
i would suggest you,s go on a date and see what happens the best thing to do is spend time together and see what develops good luck
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