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writes:This might seem a little dumb, but I just feel like I'm not getting the attention that I really want from my significant other as of late. I always try and send her a "Good Morning" text, and all I'm really looking for is a little reciprocity. I understand that she has to get up and get ready for work and everything, but it just takes 2 minutes to reply to a text right? I don't know, maybe because I'm not working right now and I have all the time in the world to overthink things, but it's the only thing I really want out of her. I'm leaving to take a new job in a month and it's going to be 12 hours away, so my question is: should I continue the relationship hoping she understands where I come from or just break up?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 August 2016):
 other than her blowing you off in the mornings while she gets ready for her life (that's sarcasm) how is she ignoring you?
are you perhaps too demanding of her?
my now husband and i were LDR for the first year and I wanted more contact than he did (like daily vs weekly) and we talked about it and we compromised to meet both our needs.
he is not a morning person so I new I'd never get attention in the mornings.
in addition until a year ago he was on a flip phone and did not text. I had to learn to cope with the fact that his not texting or calling was NOT an indication of how he felt.
have you asked he about it or are you just over reacting without even discussing it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2016): Oh definitely break up. You aren't ready for a real relationship, if you are basing the entire relationship on whether or not she has time to text you back on a busy morning while she's getting ready. You have all day at the moment to choose when and what you text. So instead of making it about you, how about you figure out when the best time to communicate with you your girlfriend is? Yes we get that you're moving away, sorry to hear that, I'm sure it's a huge strain, you must be very upset, blah blah blah, no seriously why are you being as needy as an infant?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 August 2016):
 So you want to break up over a missed good morning text ?...
If you are even considering that, yes, I don't think your relationship will stand the text of distance .
Do YOU understands where she comes from ?... You are unemployed, bored, there's not mich going on in your life now, and maybe you wait that " Good morning " text as the highlight of yoir day, or a much needed pick me up.
Ok, understandble . It figures.
But- do you realize this is not about love and feelings, it's just ego and sleevepulling for attention ?
Yers, it would be nicer if she would answer " Good morning back " (... I wonder, ... would you really leave it at athat ? Wouldn't you try to engagé her in conversations and romantic exchanges ? ) , and yes, it would not take a lot of time. BUT it's one more " to do " thing in her list, in a moment when she is busy, hurried, pressed for time, and focused on her daily tasks and the workday that's coming up.
Maybe she does not NEED you to tell her good morning, maybe she doers not paicularly appreciate, maybe she is not a big texter , or at least not a big texter first thing in the morning ! Probabaly if she can carve 5 - 10 minutes to herself while doing her morning routine, she likes to spend her in other ways than the mandatory " good morning " to an insecure , tit.for.that bf.
This of course if your relationship is generally good and you are sure of your mutual feelings. In this case there should be absolutely no need for keeping score and blow.by.blow reciprocation : I ssay hi, she ays hi- I kiss her, she kisses me...
IF there are other reasons , which you did not tell us, why you are feeling on tenterhooks about this relationship, and feel you are being taken for granted and not reciprocated, then yes, no text in the morning may be just one more signs of her cooling down. But by itself ?.... It does not mean anything, other than you are a bit of a primadonna.
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