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After girlfriend's seizure I'm not myself, is this normal?

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Question - (30 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 August 2009)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I'll just get right to it, I'm 16 and I can't masterbate anymore. My girlfriend has this problem that causes her to have seizures. It is now 8/30/09 and she had her first seizure since we've been dating on 8/27/09 I guess that's only 3 days but I was extremely upset. I cried and I just felt like crap and I still don't feel 100%. I'm usually a pretty perverted guy, I find something wrong with everything, but since it happened I havn't been able to masterbate, look at other women, say perverted things, or even do alot of cursing. I just want to know does this happen to alot of people after something like this happens.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009):

There's more to life than witty banter, and in the real world people have to take things more seriously. Your girlfriend might suffer from epilepsy, and fits would be a regular and random occurrence, so she will need your full support, respect, and seriousness. Just respect her and be a good boyfriend to her. Fits and seizures can kill believe it or not, and you will would be devastated if you lost her!

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A male reader, softtouchmale2003 United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

softtouchmale2003 agony auntYou have finally realized that you care about another human being. Your mind won't let you get horny because you think you may have been the cause of her seizure.

It also says you care about her.

I would say if you spend more time with her, and be nice and gentle you will find out that you can care for someone deeply. When you do that, your body will react again and you can start enjoying your life fully. Maybe some day, when she's able to handle sex without seizures, things will be better.

The thing to remember is that the biggest sex organ in the human body is the mind. Right now, your mind is on her and her seizures. That's distracting you away from the usual routine of relieving your sexual tensions.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009):

Well to be honest, I haven't surveyed that many guys to ask if their girlfriends have had seizures and how they felt afterward, but I can offer an explanation off the top of my head.

You lived in a land of fun, friends and freedom. You went to school, oggled girls, talked smack with your friends, made a few jokes; some in good humour, some at others' expense, went home turned on the porn and had your fun. That's what life consisted of to you. I'm guessing you keep up in school but it doesn't run your life. At your age, that's how most kids would go about their day. This is the social period, not a time to take everything seriously. And most people at your age, have not had the light of a bigger more serious world shone in their faces.

Your girlfriend had a seizure. This showed you that a--no matter what fun and games it all seems right now, bad thigns are happening out there b--your girlfriend is more than a hot girl or a highschool relationship; she is human, she has problems, she is fragile and needs to be loved, taken care of and respected. c--the human body is more than just a subject for your eyes and hormones.

You have had a wake up call. You can now realize that there is life outside of your school. Bad things happen to good people and everything will not always be spiffy. Your girlfriend is probably mature for her age because of what she's had to go through. Often times, that's what it takes for a kid to wisen up. It takes trauma. A kid gets in a car accient and almost dies, has diabetes, 's mom dies, parents devorce and one parent is never allowed to see him again..

When adult world things happen to teenagers, it instills a more realistic veiw of the world into his/her mind. It sets his/her priorities straight. It changes people. I can't understand why you've been feeling this way.

Listen.. your gf is going through something hard. She needs you and your full respect. She's not an object so don't treat her as part of a whole of them. Your eyes belong to her your attention belongs to her, your heart, your mind, your love belongs to her as long as you are still telling her that you are committed to her. This is a very good lesson for you to learn. It's a cold world out there. Good things happen to bad people.. so as those good people, we need to be out spending out times wisely. Take care. My best to the lady..


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