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writes: my bf and i have been together for 1 year and 5 months. we've been through a lot of ups and downs, but we're still holding on.i wasnt a virgin when we got together, but he was. we had sex 6 months into the relationship and at first it was good. we regularly have sex and blowjobs and all those stuff. then last august he broke up with. we got back together last dec. during that time i felt that our relationship isnt all that i thought it was. so now that we're together again, i feel like i dont want to have sex with him anymore. i love him and he is hot everytime we're together, i cant get my hands off him. but i dont want to let him in my body anymore because im afraid he might leave again and this could all go to waste. i told him i dont want to have sex anymore, but he has a high sex drive and it makes him real sad when i tell him that. because of his reaction i feel that i am depriving him of pleasure and i am not doing my best to make him happy. he tells me he wants to get pleasured by me only and he loves only me thats why he wants us to do these things. i really want to save myself until we get married. i dont want to abuse myself in sex right now. i told him that but he tells me he wants to have sex with me because he loves me and doesnt want to sleep with other girls. i dont want to upset him but i dont want sex too. i fear this might make him unfaithful though.
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reader, x_xBlackMeEyesx_x +, writes (13 April 2007):
 Okay i totally agree with doctor mark!
your body is your body and dont ever let yourself get pressured into having sex when you dont want to.
in the past i have been and i regret it so much now i wished it had never ever happened!
If he truely loves you he will understand if you explain it to him properly that you want to keep it until your married. also if need be you can do other things to satisfy him like blowjobs etc. then he will be happy and feel pleasured but you havent had to have sex.
best wishes x
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reader, Dr. Mark  +, writes (13 April 2007):
#1, and most important:
YOUR BODY IS YOUR OWN!
Ok, that's obvious, but what does that mean? It means that if you don't want to have sex, you should not be presured into it by anyone. If he leaves you over it, then you will feel pain, but this will not last forever. Sounds cold of me, I know. But it's true, and there will be someone else for you who will respect you more. Don't EVER EVER EVER be guilted into providing your body for the sexual gratification of another.
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