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writes:Going back 4-5 years ago i had split with my ex and we both went on our own ways. both she and i have had a few different partners and am willing to look past that obviously, its a long time.the hard part here is that ever since we split as i got new gf's i had always wished that i had her as she was trustworthy and loved me alot. i had split with her back then.we still talk every now and then and i have her number etc, but just recently she had a party and we made out. it was the type of pashing that was lead in by both of us and we may have just been caught in the moment or maybe it was something more?? i haven't spoken about it with her yet.. (just wanna make sure i head down the right path with it)Now the reason for the post is does anyone think i would have a chance at all on getting her back? i understand we have both changed but i like her alot more than the way she used to be. i completely understand all the risks involved but given that i did break up with her i think that may lower my chances just a little.. any tips would be good for winning over your ex its not something i have tried before so its a whole new world and at this stage..thanks for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): Well I personelly dont believe in going back with an ex. My opinion is that you broke up for a reason and that reason was that you both arnt compatible, otherwise you would have stayed together. Its far better to look forward and to meet someone who will be better for you.My opinion aside, If you do want her back then you have two options:The direct approach, Talk to her and tell her that you have been thinking about her for quite awhile, and that youd like to give it another try.A more suttle approach, Id recomend this one: Ask her to hang out sometime and see how she responds, if shes up fo it then go out together and have fun (it has to be just you and her ok). Call her afterward and tell her it was fun. This way you put yourself back in her thoughts.Whatever you choose, make sure it is what you really want. All the best
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reader, domybest  +, writes (29 November 2009):
Nobody here will know if you have a chance or not. We don't know what your relationship was like, or how she reacted when you broke up with her...But it sounds as though she may like you too if she kissed you at this party. I think the only way to win someone back is to just open your heart, game playing won't work, you just need to be honest with her. Tell her how you feel, she may be feeling it to and its up to someone to make the first move.It won't be easy and you will have to regain a lot of trust in your relationship since you broke up with her I assume she will be a little apprehensive that you may just do it again, so the relationship will have to be worked at. But you probably know that and you still think its worth it, all that's left to say is good luck! I really hope it goes well for you, you sound like a nice guy!
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